I will be as brief as I can be. So.....I met this man in Sept of 2016. We dated for a short while and then moved in together. He was very clear that he has 2 children with is EX in another state. They had been together for 10 years. He and I talked about what the things we wanted. We both wanted a child together, I love him and he made me feel loved. Everything was great, my son liked him, he was working, but then went down hill. By the time things got to their worst, I was preg. He left to go back to his children's mother for a month. While he was gone I had contact with him and was able to tell him I was preg. Because he left I had a hard conversation with him. I told him that if he did not want our relationship or the child to please let me know. He said he loved me and wanted the baby, he acted very excited about it all. He did return and went to doc appts with me, but for only 2 months. He then left again for a month and a half to go back to the children's mother. But we had contact during that time. During that time he was gone I was learning and trying to use LOA. I spoke to the Universe and God. I would talk as if he was with me. THEN...They got into a fight and he came back again to me for only a month and a half. He has left again, but I have no way of contacting him, he has not contacted me in three weeks. He did say he would be back for the birth. He named our baby and he was there to find out she is a girl. Fear, sadness, and depression is swallowing me up. I think even if LOA does bring him back again, why... because I cant make the children and the children's mother disappear. I don't know if LOA actually brought him back.

Really I want him to love, care and desire to be with our baby girl. I want him and she to know each other even if he and I are not together. I would love for him to grow up, get sober from alcohol and possibly drugs. I would love for him to love me back and be loyal to me and our daughter.

So the question...Is LOA pointless in this situation? I know ppl say don't put a time frame, but I am due in Sept of this year. I want him to be here for it and never leave again.

Thanks to all the respond. I have heard everything...like I would better off with out him. That is not where my heart is for my daughter. I know what it is like not to know who my father is. I don't want that for her.