I could be wrong.   But I don't think anyone wants someone obsessed with them

YesIWILL wrote:

jensherratt wrote:

Whom you adore, adores you back.
"You teach each other your respective responsive vibrations.
In other words, you don't feel any way about anyone without them helping you to feel that way.
Its really co-creation.

We will even go further and bolder and louder and blunter.
If there is someone you don't like, they don't like you either.
We have never seen it any other way.
We have never one time, ever known someone to adore someone that the one they were adoring, didn't adore them back.
Now, some are saying ....... Oh wait, there was that man I once loved with all my heart and he didn't love me back.
And we say, you were offering him insecurity.
You were offering him worry.
It wasn't that pure vibration of love.
When you are tuned in, tapped in, turned on, when you are connected to your source, and holding someone as your object of attention and you are genuinely offering that feeling of love and appreciation, they can't offer you anything else."

-Abraham Hicks!


This confuses people because they don't understand the difference between desire and obsession.

I have said this before, countless times, and I will say it again.
Desire is a two way street. ALWAYS!

So, what's the difference?

DESIRE:
When you have the desire, you feel good about it. You're confident in yourself. You trust that it will be delivered to you by the universe at the correct timing. You don't worry about where it is because you know it already exists. You don't worry about it because you the "how" is the job of the universe. Whenever you think about your desire, you're happy, positive, confident, and excited. Signs and synchronicitys appear all over the place.

OBSESSION:
When you don't fully believe that it is possible to have whatever it is you're asking for. You have doubt and you focus on the lack. You look for signs and get frustrated when they don't appear. You have low self esteem and lack of trust in the universe. You have no confidence. You think you can't have it. You're constantly wondering where it is and when will it happen. You're focusing too much on your current reality. You focus on obstacles. You start questioning whether or not you should give up.

Its really that simple.

So wait... if you're obsessed with someone, shouldn't they be obsessed with you too, then, if this follows suit?

 

No. Obsession repells people. Obsession means low vibration. If you're obsessed with someone, you don't offer vibrational love.

jensherratt wrote:

Avaelle wrote:

I think this is a large part of why you can't shake some people out of your mind. (In a non obsessive way)

 
Agree. I believe strongly that when you can't stop thinking about them, its because they're thinking about you too.

When I attracted back my guy, although I was happy and focusing on other things, could not get him out my head. I had loads of dreams with him in too. Never happened before. I know if your ex appears in your dreams its because they're missing you. A lot of people dream about their ex after RS.

we know the answers to how people feel after RS more than we think. Lol.

I use to dream about an ex a lot. Almost weekly. It would make me miss when things were good between us.

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Dan2015 wrote:

What I think people don't realize is.   A desire can become an obsession if we aren't careful, so we really have to be careful

 
This is true 👌

fear, worry, insecruties etc sometimes comes from past hurts not necessarily obsessiveness, im in a long distant relationship and i have a lot of traits in yout description of someone who obsessed - i think with me its the 'fear' of it not working out and falling appart, the fear of being let down has i have in the past. But despite the fear - on both occasions we have split up, it was like the fear was worse than the reality, I was actually relieved in a way, wished him all the best really meant it as i loved him and wanted the best for him even if that meant letting me go. I was obvioulsy upset but I accepted the situation and moved on
On both occasions he came back when i let go and moved on and on both times he said he couldnt believe i wasnt calling, chassing him etc .. as I'd been so fearful of the relationship falling appart.
I also have some traits you describe for desire as despite my insecurities i know in my heart we will be together when the time is right, we've lasted 4 yrs with this distance, ive known him all my life - since we were kids, but the impatience and frustration with the situation i guess leads me back to fear again grrr I agree obsessiveness repells, I cringe thinking how my ex husband chassed me whilst we were going through our divorce, I'd have respected him more if he'd kept his distance and held his own but the more he chassed the more I ran.​

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