sillyromantic wrote:

Hi everyone, I need your advice, or maybe even just get things off my chest..
My ex and I broke up 2 months ago and had no contact since pretty much. When we ended things he told me he was going to go be with his friend that was always crushing on him in order to get over me and he cried a lot. It was really emotional and intense.
We had no contact and I have been doing better, staying busy, more social, working on me and happier, even gone out on a couple of dates but I still think about him often. Today a coworker that is friends with him on facebook showed me that he changed his relationship status to a relationship with that friend pretty much the day after we broke up and he's posting all these happy photos with her now and it crushed me more than I expected. I want so badly for this not to affect me and ruin the work I've been doing on my own energy and being positive and happy but I'm feeling sad, confused and upset today. What do I do to get out of this funk and not think so much about them being happy together? I deleted him from my phone today and on skype. Don't want any reminders..

Mine did that. He basically stopped talking to me and rushed into something with a woman I remember being suspicious of. First thing I did was I told all of my mutual friends to stop telling me anything. Unless he's hurt or dying, I don't care. I quit looking at social media altogether for a few weeks. Then I just learned not to look at his social media. That wasn't too hard because he's a private guy. Even on his public pages he never shared anything too personal so that's a bonus for me. I went far enough to block his girl and his ex so I didn't have to accidentally see something any mutual friends liked. I started meditating a lot and did a chi healing session. The healing session is what really got me into a wonderful state of unbotheredness. I highly recommend chi or Reiki to anyone, but especially those dealing with suffering. The pain hit me again when I learned how "serious" he was with her, but after a while I simply don't even think of it anymore. When I thought of them together I replaced her with me and pretended she didn't exist. Healthy? Delusional? Who's to say? I create my reality and I do what I want in my world. It helped me so I regret nothing. The wonderful thing is that the sadness and feelings of regret fade. They really truly do. The more you work on yourself, the less you'll think about it. I can say after 6 months I went from devastated to okay to crushed again to totally over it. I'd say 85% of the time when I think of him or see a picture of him (I do need to delete things in my phone badly) I just kind of "meh".  Don't get me wrong; I love the guy very much. He was the first man I ever fell in love with and I truly do care about him. I'm at the point now where I just want him to have happiness and love even if I'm not part of it. It definitely takes time and isn't some overnight fix. For now, while you're hurting so deeply, I'd definitely start with taking a break from social media and meditation.