If I'm being honest.  I would just try to focus on myself and go with the flow for now, when it comes to other people.     I don't really think you're in the right state of mind for feelings, let alone a relationship.   

You have been better lately, I think most can agree on that.   But I don't Think it's even been a month yet, since you still had strong desire for your ex

I mean we are all different, but my ex and I brokeup in September 2015 and it took me until like this January to really consider dating others

During that time, I missed out on some pretty good opportunities to date some amazing women(including the girl I presently want to date, last year she really liked me.  I know she still does, but oddly enough now she's not in the right mental state)   But I feel like it would have been wrong to date any of these women, while I wasn't 100 percent yet

I mean, I have the confidence that I can manifest any of these women back, but I'm still trying to make myself better.  Make myself more confident. Make myself more secure.   Love myself more than I have ever before, etc

It's amazing when you can get to the point, where you don't need anyone but yourself, but having others is the cherry on the top instead of the whole dessert

I went out on one date with a guy who talked about tigers all night. There was no second date.

Another one, after a few dates, kept saying that he wanted to go and see a "fil-um" and kept saying "yum yum" when eating pizza. I went to his house one afternoon and he had weird things in the fridge (sauerkraut for one) and played Ian Dury on repeat. That went nowhere but now he is one of my best mates and I appreciate his quirkiness. We are far better as friends!

Another one showed up on the first date in cowboy boots with a bag of mucky washing. 

When I decided I didn't want to see another one anymore, he burst into tears and told me I couldn't chuck him as he had cancer and only had six months to live. I was 16 then, and in the last 15 years, I have seen him shoving a trolley around Sainsbury's on many occasions.
 

80saeaak wrote:

I always say "I'm not into you". I'm not going to make a detailed list including "I don't like your social media behavior. You slurp when you eat. You cuss too much. You made a statement that made my stomach turn. Something about you just didn't feel good". You don't need a detailed list. We all know who we are. Asking for a reason is like asking for a list of improvements. You don't need it. Your people will recognize you as part of their tribe and want you exactly how you are. Those who don't aren't your tribe. Leave them be.

Some people will say "I'm not interested" and continue to lead you on. Those people suck, but the key is to walk away the minute they say they aren't interested  Indecision is a decision. Learn to identify flaky people and avoid them. It's easy to spot them: They always make you wonder where you stand.

Personally, I've never blocked someone I've dated unless they made me uncomfortable, scared, or have bothered me to the point where I can't shake them otherwise. I've never given those men another chance to enter my life even as a friend and I leave social situations to avoid them.

You don't want to be that guy.

I can't explain it. She was definitely into me. And probably still is. I really really don't think she wasn't just continuing to lead me on. She not only went out of her way but WAY out of her way. Nobody would go that far.

YesIWILL wrote:

80saeaak wrote:

I always say "I'm not into you". I'm not going to make a detailed list including "I don't like your social media behavior. You slurp when you eat. You cuss too much. You made a statement that made my stomach turn. Something about you just didn't feel good". You don't need a detailed list. We all know who we are. Asking for a reason is like asking for a list of improvements. You don't need it. Your people will recognize you as part of their tribe and want you exactly how you are. Those who don't aren't your tribe. Leave them be.

Some people will say "I'm not interested" and continue to lead you on. Those people suck, but the key is to walk away the minute they say they aren't interested  Indecision is a decision. Learn to identify flaky people and avoid them. It's easy to spot them: They always make you wonder where you stand.

Personally, I've never blocked someone I've dated unless they made me uncomfortable, scared, or have bothered me to the point where I can't shake them otherwise. I've never given those men another chance to enter my life even as a friend and I leave social situations to avoid them.

You don't want to be that guy.

I can't explain it. She was definitely into me. And probably still is. I really really don't think she wasn't just continuing to lead me on. She not only went out of her way but WAY out of her way. Nobody would go that far.

Will, the woman blocked you. She wasn't that into you if she went to that length. Maybe something rubbed her the wrong way when she met you, but she thought she could get past it. Maybe something happened after. Regardless, it doesn't matter. Once someone says they aren't interested, you need to have enough self-love to walk away. It's fine to ask why, but you can't keep pestering them. You could have had a friendship with this woman that may have developed into more. You kept on her ass. You know you did because you said you sent "one final message". Would it have been the final message had she not blocked you? I doubt it. 

I seriously think you need to stop worrying about dating and trying to get someone else to love you. People who love themselves don't chase people to the point that they have to block you. You said your last ex went to great lengths to get you out of her life. You need to love yourself. It's painfully obvious that you don't. That doesn't mean you're unlovable. It means you need to love yourself before asking anyone else to love you.

Here's my view: You have casually come on this forum, even after being advised several times to let things go, and casually laugh off women blocking you. That's not a normal every day occurrence for most people. It's not normal for people to be so turned off that they totally cut you out of their existence. Absolute strangers, who don't know these women and really don't know you, can see the problem here. I'm going to tell you what these women may not be- You're too needy. People don't want the responsibility of making someone see their worth. Work on yourself and stop wondering why. Stop rehashing that she was "into you". She's not. If she was you wouldn't have been blocked.

I'm not trying to pour salt into an open wound, but anyone saying "she played you" or "just find someone new" isn't doing you any favors. You need to work on you. Self-love is the most fundamental thing to bring your vibration up and attract whatever you want. You need that basic thing.

That is extraordinary from someone you met once or was it twice?