I thought you said she had explained, or have I got something wrong?

So what are you going to do now? And how is it going with work?

Avaelle wrote:

YesIWILL wrote:

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

I thought you said she had explained, or have I got something wrong?

she did. I don't know what to believe though. It seems she really really likes me. Then on the other hand, it seems the opposite. Maybe she's jsut thinking this would be best so it wouldn't hurt me any further. idk.

I can't stand the expression "he's/she's just not into you" because it is like it hits a internal switch that makes it seem like it's something wrong with the person it's said about or to.

I've went on a dinner date with a man that I met through Tinder.  Prior to the date,  we had been texting and calling each other for a couple of months.  At dinner,  I was immediately turned off by many things.  I felt like he could have used more care to his outfit,  I felt like he was lying about being interested in certain things and I was over it when he licked sauce from his fingers. It also seemed like all he did was work and sleep , so I had to carry the conversation because he really didn't have much to talk about. There were a few other things that I didn't like. When I left,  I knew that he wasn't a match for me as a boyfriend. I really didn't feel the sparks and I texted my best friend that I didn't care if I heard from the guy again.   I did though,  he texted later that night to invite himself to a place I was going.  I decided that I would move forward as friends only and that I was going to reduce the energy that I put into the situation.   I started to get texts from him demanding to know why I took so long to reply to his texts,  he called excessively and the icing on the cake was that he told me he wasn't going to reduce the energy he put into the situation.  So,  I would check my phone to have countless texts from him.  Needless to say,  he annoyed me into blocking him.

I'm not saying this to say that you are this guy, but I want to give you a peek at what it looks like from the woman's side sometimes. There wasn't anything "wrong" with the man per say. In fact,  there may be a woman that will sit at dinner and lick the sauce off of her fingers with him and enjoy getting texted every single minute.  That just wasn't for me. Sometimes it is just about compatibility.  It's really no reason to fret yourself in "finding out" why you aren't compatible unless you plan to pretend to be someone else.  The only changes you need to make are to your energy and you're making wonderful progress if you ask me. Take this as a learning step and KEEP GOING.

Thank you.

But even after I met her she'd call me and text me a lot for days. She'd tell me how cute I was and how much she likes me.

Even after she became distant, she'd still do the same. And despite not calling me or texting me for an entire day, she'd take the time out to call me and want to talk to me, and tell me how much she likes me, how cute I am, etc,


When I asked waht was going on, she siad she nows it wouldn't work out between us. Cultural stuff. physical distance between citieies. Education and more. Her paretnes wouldn't approve of me.

And yet, even whewn she started being distant, she'd still be cutsie with eme. She's not an aismmmature person who wsould do that just to hold a certain image/ She's tell me. Shed trell me if she lost interest. She'd tell me iff there werwse something going oin.

I think she really thinks doing thins is best so that she won't huerrt me in the longrun. I think she really does like me, she juist knows it wornt work out... so shes pulling away. THJats the onlyh thging that makes sense.

Seh said lettgin me go is breaking her. 

Last edited by YesIWILL (7/10/2017 2:50 pm)

I agree with everything you guys are saying.   It doesn't necessarily mean there's anything wrong with YIW.     Who knows, maybe she actually really did like him.  But couldn't progress more because of culturally things.     I think in this thread, YIW mentioned that she's Indian and from what I heard,  a lot of Indians are against interracial dating/relationships.    So maybe. She was into him, but she knew her parents would be against it and didn't want to become attached

Some cultures.  People make decisions and don't really care what family thinks.  But other cultures have more tradition of really listening to their parents,etc


I say this all the time, but I feel like this is where people get confused with LOA.   Are we able to create our whole reality or not(limitations).     

There's been plenty of people on loa forums.  Who have gotten a guy or woman who wasn't interested in them and suddenly became interested in.       I think people get confused with this.  Are we able to manifest everything(depending on our belief and vibration) into our lives or are there limit?

Personally, I believe I can manifest anything.  But there's some things, in my personal opinion that aren't worth manifesting or using energy to manifest/change what people think

Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

I feel like there's way too much analyzing the girl here, just like the other girl. Not worth analyzing all that. RR33, remember - you're not moving on from one person to another. You're moving on from one vibration to another. You're moving on from one state of being to another. You're moving on from one state of mind to another. From one belief to another. So it's all about doing the stuff that makes you feel confident, loved, worthy, secure, trusting....do what let's in those feelings - be it visualizing, affirmations, belief exercises, positive aspects, EFT, focus blocks, or just doing anything that will make you feel awesome at the end of the day. Don't lose yourself in the talk about why the girl is acting this way, don't lose yourself in another girl again. It's not about the girl. It's about you and the vibration you offer, your point of attraction. Change that by feeling better and better about love and your own worth, find those better-feeling thoughts and let them make you feel loved, let them become a new belief, the focus is on you and how you feel, the power is from you. Same goes for everyone else here, stop analyzing all the girls so much, it's an endless rabbit hole, you're repeating what happened in his old threads, just remind RR33 that it's about changing his point of attraction.

Great post.  At the end of the day, it really is about us. About how confident,secure,etc we feel.   

I mean, from what I see.  It seems like he's confident enough and secure enough to attract any girl to him, but deep down or maybe noticeable he has a belief that these girls will leave