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*See my original thread "Feeling Like Giving Up" for more info*I have some good news, my love ย and I met up yesterday and talked! A mutual friend arranged a meeting between the two of us and we walked and talked for a bit. I cannot believe how nervous I was....it turns out he was nervous too. He is doing well, ย got a promotion at work himself and is looking into getting himself a house. He gave me a hug after we talked a bit and told me he was glad that I am doing well. We talked a little about "us"...I asked him how he felt about the idea of us getting back together. His response was, "I don't know" and that with everything that had gone on with his mom disliking me and thinking that I cheated on him, that it was still a lot...I told him to remember that if we started anew that he would not be dealing with all of the troubles himself but that I would too. He told me that we could start hanging out and maybe go on a few casual dates like we did in the beginningย and see what happens...but he also told me that if I meet someone else that he wouldn't be mad either....ย Idk how to feel. I am happy that he and I can start hanging out but I am the one that has to do all of the planning and he still doesn't want his mother to know we are talking so Idk if he will even respond to my text messages when I go to arrange a time to meet up andย I am worried that he will not keep to it...I am also worried that I won't be able to win his heart like I did before....I mean at least he didn't tell me no....and when we laughed and joked a bit, he hugged me back and told me he missed me too.ย I realize it will not be the same as it was before and that is fine because I told him that we had such a great time together that there was no reason we couldn't have an even better relationship together....but I am afraid that even if he still has feelings for me..that he will just keep seeing the obstacles and shy away. He even told me yesterday he likes to take the path of least resistance...how can I offer him that when how his mother feels about me or how he feels about me is out of my control?ย ย I am not ready to give up and I am working on staying positive...I even saw some synchronicity the past few days that show me my desire is coming and I have thanked the universe for each one and I am grateful that I could talk to him yesterday. ย ย I need some advice. Please.ย
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Forget what others think. It is only about what you want and believe. I can tell you from experience my own mother strongly dislikes a few of my Ex's (who are friends) but he view of them changed with time as they proven themselves to be good people (just not the one to be with me). If you love yourself others will follow and if they dont they will go on their own. You just keep the good vibes up.