PrettyFlamingo wrote:

iinikkii wrote:

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

What does that mean?

**** out of luck

Ha ha!  This explains it. An American friend of mine said that she was putting a guy on her "sol list" and I wondered what that meant but forgot to ask her. I'd never heard it before!!

So what am I supposed to do?? I find it hard to believe that everyone on this forum believed in this 100% from the get go. So how do you learn to believe

80saeaak wrote:

Blossom1 wrote:

have you tried chakra healing, reiki etc it's really helped me, I'm surprised how little its recommend or discussed on this forum - reiki and law of attraction go hand in hand as they both work with your intentions.reiki will help with your self limiting beliefs, and the healing energy will go to where healing is mostly needed at a subconscious levelI'm being attuned in the summer as its changed my life and outlook so much after having sessions from a local healer but you can find lots reiki healing vids on youtube - its free, so got nothing to lose x PS. you can also make a reiki intention box to manifest your goals, too detailed to go into here - google it for instructions x

It's cool that you brought this up because I never see it on these forums. I use a chi healer and it has made me feel incredible. Not even to manifest, but more for the letting go part of it. She's taught me techniques to release my negative energy and just be without emotion. Very cool.

If I may, OP, I don't think the problem is failure to believe, but more failure to be able to let go. That's when it happens. You read on this forum a lot of people telling each other not to give up and not to stop the techniques, but it's rare that you see people say "let it go and move on". That's one of the most important steps. Maybe THE most important part. Not even giving up, but letting it go and not caring that it's not there yet.

A watched pot never boils.

I honestly don't know what is holding me up.. I really just want to give up all together. This hasn't worked for me, I'm losing faith in loa all together to be honest. I can't control him, so where does that leave me with what I am wanting when it includes HIM??

iinikkii wrote:

I really feel like I'm on a downward spiral.. and fast. All I want to do is sleep all the time just because it is a sort of escape from reality. I honestly don't know how much longer I can deal with this. I just want this to work for me. I want my guy back and I have no idea how to not have an ulterior motive.

Okay. There's the problem. You're working from a place of desperation. Nothing works there. Have you ever had someone obsessed with you? It's ugly. It's unattractive. It's a huge turnoff. Now reverse that. When you're desperate and obsessed, you're making yourself unattractive.

Stop all techniques. Stop them. Don't worry about any of that. Nothing will work if you're desperate. Nothing at all. Give up for now and don't work on it until you love yourself. You need to be in a place where you don't need him if you want to manifest him back. You need to be in a place where you love yourself so much that you don't need it from anyone else. No one else can give that to you. You have to do it on your own. If you can't love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to love you properly?

Do self-love and self-worth affirmations. Take up a hobby. Let this go. It won't work in the condition you're in. If it does, it won't last because you don't love yourself. Basic LOA 101.

Last edited by 80saeaak (6/26/2017 1:43 pm)

I agree wholeheartedly with self love, but I don't always agree that we don't get what we want, or things go wrong, because we don't love ourselves. I love and accept myself, but I don't always act that out - in that I should eat better, sleep more, exercise more, not think badly of myself (I don't actually think badly of myself, but I do recall situations that went wrong for me and get a bit hung up on them - I guess that is a form of self-abuse isn't it?!)

 

perhaps take a break from loa for cpl months and as the others have said work on self love.

Last edited by Blossom1 (6/26/2017 5:10 pm)