Staceylouuu91x wrote:

I felt I should write this post since I've seen a lot of negativity lately, also partly inspired by reading Sanshi's posts over my time here. 

Just going to open with while you can get your ex back, you probably won't though based the way a lot of you are handling the situation. Now, I'm not saying this to be rude or nasty but from the posts I've seen here, there's a lot of desperation and pain, which is absolutely understandable because we've all been there but you're not going to attract a relationship from this point. Not a strong, healthy one at least. 

If you're bombarding the person with messages, stop. If you're stalking the person, stop. These acts will only push the person away from a literal standpoint and a vibrational one. If they contact you, great! Other than that, no contact. I can tell you a personal story. One of my exes broke up with me and you know what I did? Bombarded him with texts telling him nobody will love him more than me, I told him how much I needed him and all that desperate malarkey.  You know what I got? The cold shoulder and I don't blame the guy at all! I deleted his phone number, I blocked him from anywhere I could contact him and I focused on my life back on track. I didn't speak to him for a year, a whole 365 days. At this stage, I had decided I didn't need him anymore because I had grown as a person but he's still in my life, we're friends and I'm still close with his family. Time isn't a factor. 

This was something that took so long for me to click with but this isn't about them, it's about you. We give a lot of ourselves to the person and when they leave, we feel empty. Instead of focusing on getting the person back straight away focus on getting yourself back. You have to be happy for you and live your life for you. 

I found this scribbled on some paper in my drawer from a year or so ago when I set out to manifest a guy I was really close to back in my life. Resistance happens and fighting that will only make it worse. I wrote down these points: 
-  It's okay to have an off day, nobody expects me to keep it together 100% of the time.
-  I am allowed to feel low sometimes, I'm not a superhero. 
What helps with resistance is actually making peace with the worst case scenario. In this case, I'm assuming it's the person not coming back or getting with another person. That's a-ok. You have been happy without the person before and you will again. If you're worried they'll get with another person, just know that if you wanted to you could into a relationship with a new, exciting person. After all, you did the same thing with this person. 

I'll wrap this up here with personal experience. I joined this forum about a year ago because I was desperate to get a guy I was really fond of back into my life. It took me a month to manifest him back and within a month he'd left again because I'd fallen back into my old, toxic thought patterns. So ask yourself, what would you do if the person came back right now. 
This isn't all doom and gloom though for me since I decided I was going to better myself and focus on becoming a deliberate creator I've made new friends, got closer with old friends, met a really awesome guy who I love spending time with, went on short break on a barge boat and experienced something new. I've still got to work on self-worth and self-esteem issues but as of now, I love my life and how things have played out. 
 

I have been in NC with my sort of ex since 4 months. I had recently texted him but he did not reply. Although initially I regretted it but then I felt why should I feel sorry for myself. So I realized I have grown a lot since the last 6 months.(Earlier me would have immediately called & lashed out at him) The only problem is I have conflicting thoughts whether I should even think about being with friends with him? I know I dont want an exclusive relationship immediately for sure. But I keep visualising him apologising and us being friends. Someone told me that I should have self respect and not think about it as he used me & then left me. Another person said manifesting an apology comes from your ego. Is this true? Is it my ego that wants this? I mean obviously I am hurt by his actions so I dont want a relationship  but I can still imagine him apologizing right? Or am I wrong? During the day I am so content I dont even think about it that much but during nights I seem to get stuck a bit. Please help me out with this!