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I believe that with how the universe works you can get what you want but in your case I really hope you stop focusing on this abusive man and focus on yourself. Of course it is not your fault or because of you. He has a serious problem and I promise you that he will be abusive to every woman he is with! Get out..it can get dangerous for you and your family. Look at some Dr. Phil's episodes :-)
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Of course you could put the work in to change that situation but in my opinion, you shouldn't. None of this is your fault and you should get the hell away from that person because you deserve so much better. Transfer your love into the idea of getting someone in your life who will love you unconditionally and wouldn't even dream of intentionally hurting you.Β
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Run. You don't want your son to mirror this man's behavior.
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Staceylouuu91x wrote:
Transfer your love into the idea of getting someone in your life who will love you unconditionally and wouldn't even dream of intentionally hurting you.Β
To reach that, she first has to love herself unconditionally and she obviously doesn't, else she hadn't attracted that guy. So I would suggest to start with unconditional self-love.
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i was in a relationship many years ago that was almost like this one. one thing that helped me was understanding why i attracted it in first place.Β
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So, after some time I'm much better. It still hurts in the place where heart is but I'm laughing I spend time with my friends, I'm preparing for my new job from 1st of June.
This was very hard period for me. I can make many explanations for everything but I don't want to. Somewhere deep inside, many of us, probably don't have that big love for ourselves. Or maybe we give ourselves too much because someone told us that we should. Or... Never mind what. Interesting is that first time in my life I was so in love with my body. He made some "remarks" about my body but I simply didn't care. I was like- I'm perfect. I can't explain why I didn't have the same opinion about whole relationship like- I'm too good for you. I see that you have a problem but it's not on me to help you. You must help yourself first.
Like my best friend said- You forgot who you are.
Girls, don't you ever forget who you are!!!Β
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Hello darling,
I really want to you to remember, why you came to your physical body. You know, all of us made a choice to come here. We came into this reality to simply enjoy it, to find the best of everything and be happy. I kind of know what you are going through, I was in abusive relationship for five crazy years. When I came to this forum, I wanted to get back a man who I thought was meant for me. I didn't really care that he is disrespecting me, doesent care about my feelings, loves himself more than anything else...Luckily, the Law of attraction wont help us to get in this kind of relationship, because we cannot completely change the way the other person is, and when we use loa, we imagine nice things right?
So, the only thing you can do about this situation is to start working on yourself. Try to see yourself with love and respect. Stand in front of the mirror and imagine there is a little girl in front of you - your younger self. Tell her how beautiful she is, how lovable she is, how amazing woman she will be. Tell her that she will get her prince and really believe it. Believe that there is someone who is meant to be with you, who will be so grateful to have you, who will treat you like a princess.
One day, you will love yourself again. And when this day comes, you will meet the right person for you. It happened to me and he lived in the same building as me, I just wasnt ready to meet him sooner. Give all your love to yourself, and let the universe find you your soulmate.
Love you! Be strong
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girlinlove wrote:
Hello darling,
I really want to you to remember, why you came to your physical body. You know, all of us made a choice to come here. We came into this reality to simply enjoy it, to find the best of everything and be happy. I kind of know what you are going through, I was in abusive relationship for five crazy years. When I came to this forum, I wanted to get back a man who I thought was meant for me. I didn't really care that he is disrespecting me, doesent care about my feelings, loves himself more than anything else...Luckily, the Law of attraction wont help us to get in this kind of relationship, because we cannot completely change the way the other person is, and when we use loa, we imagine nice things right?
So, the only thing you can do about this situation is to start working on yourself. Try to see yourself with love and respect. Stand in front of the mirror and imagine there is a little girl in front of you - your younger self. Tell her how beautiful she is, how lovable she is, how amazing woman she will be. Tell her that she will get her prince and really believe it. Believe that there is someone who is meant to be with you, who will be so grateful to have you, who will treat you like a princess.
One day, you will love yourself again. And when this day comes, you will meet the right person for you. It happened to me and he lived in the same building as me, I just wasnt ready to meet him sooner. Give all your love to yourself, and let the universe find you your soulmate.
Love you! Be strong
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Oh, thank you! You understand the whole process
Two things- My ex was in same building as me (we met after 6 years) ))
Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β Β That ex off yours is selfish not in "love with himself". That is a big difference! Β
Love and kiss for you!
I'm much better and I can do it!!!
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collie wrote:
I believe that with how the universe works you can get what you want but in your case I really hope you stop focusing on this abusive man and focus on yourself. Of course it is not your fault or because of you. He has a serious problem and I promise you that he will be abusive to every woman he is with! Get out..it can get dangerous for you and your family. Look at some Dr. Phil's episodes :-)
Thank you! And I got out of it. It still hurts but I feel much better!