So the problem is not attracting a lover back its what happens after that. So my situation now is that he has been back for months our bond has been reconnected back to how it use to be. However, during the time of no contact he became engaged to someone he had dealings with previously. I had to find out on my own because he surely wasn't going to tell me. Heart broken but he keeps telling me we are good friends. Sometimes his actions say he wants more, he calls and talks to me for hours as well as sees me in his free time. But now I am to the point to cut it all off gradually. I use to fear him getting married. I tell myself the quote "we can never lose whats meant for us even if we throw it away" Maybe he's not the one for me. For the most part I am good at disregarding my true emotions so when I feel bad I redirect my thoughts. I don't call him anymore unless I have a missed call. Im in a place to not knowing if I should say forget it all, but I more on I don't care anymore I give up and let it go all together start over with someone else. How can you get engage to someone and never claim that person or still continue to have intimacy with others that you once had feelings for? So I felt like I was interfering  now that  I do know he is engaged.