YesIWILL wrote:

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

YesIWILL wrote:

Just saw her on her sisters snaphat, she looks happy... so why does that feel like a punch in the gut to me?

What are you getting at, that you want her to be completely miserable as sin? If that's the case why do you want to be with someone who is unhappy? I don't want to be with an unhappy miserable guy! Sorry I don't get this bit.

I want the old relationshipp back where we were both content and happy. The one where she'd hold me tight, put her head against my chest and tell me how much she liked me. That was heaven.

Would you really want the old relationship back?  last time I checked, it led to a breakup... want a NEW AND IMPROVED relationship with her


and about your question, don't think too hard about it.. I feel that's also one of your biggest problems, you try to analyze everything instead of just letting it happen.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

YesIWILL wrote:

I want the old relationshipp back where we were both content and happy. The one where she'd hold me tight, put her head against my chest and tell me how much she liked me. That was heaven.

That would be so cute. 

... It's my heaven. It was the happiest time of my life. 
I want it back.

Dan2015 wrote:

YesIWILL wrote:

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

What are you getting at, that you want her to be completely miserable as sin? If that's the case why do you want to be with someone who is unhappy? I don't want to be with an unhappy miserable guy! Sorry I don't get this bit.

I want the old relationshipp back where we were both content and happy. The one where she'd hold me tight, put her head against my chest and tell me how much she liked me. That was heaven.

Would you really want the old relationship back?  last time I checked, it led to a breakup... want a NEW AND IMPROVED relationship with her


and about your question, don't think too hard about it.. I feel that's also one of your biggest problems, you try to analyze everything instead of just letting it happen.

I'm okay with a new and improved relationship with her. I want her to act in a loving way like she used to, is what I think I'm trying to get at. 

I love her so much. It's so hard not having her here with me anymore. It's so ******* hard. 
She wasn't just my girlfriend... she was the one person I could rely on and trust with my life. The only person I felt close to. I'd give up anything to have that back.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

YesIWILL wrote:

I want the old relationshipp back where we were both content and happy. The one where she'd hold me tight, put her head against my chest and tell me how much she liked me. That was heaven.

THAT is what you need to visualise - but when you are feeling great about everything else. But I can't help thinking that in your current mindset it would be counterproductive because you say you feel sick and anxious or whatever when you see a picture of her or think about her, so it probably wouldn't help atm. See the importance of getting in a good place first?

Yeah I do. I just don't know how. It's like going against my feelings. I feel sad. I've felt sad since. I can find spurts of happiness with day-to-day activities, but deep down, the hurt is still there. I honestly don't know how to get to that place. I admit I wished her a happy Easter via text. I need to stop doing that, as you all say. Obviously no response. I just find it hard, seeing that she doesn't care about me, and she STILL doesn't want me in her life a year later. Well, over a year. I just want her to knock on my apartment door right now, and I want to be surprised, seeing her there, and have her rush into me, putting her arms around me, holding me tightly, saying, "I'm so so so sorry". 

My life isn't the same as it used to be. I want 'us' back.

Thelawoflove wrote:

YesIWILL wrote:

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

THAT is what you need to visualise - but when you are feeling great about everything else. But I can't help thinking that in your current mindset it would be counterproductive because you say you feel sick and anxious or whatever when you see a picture of her or think about her, so it probably wouldn't help atm. See the importance of getting in a good place first?

Yeah I do. I just don't know how. It's like going against my feelings. I feel sad. I've felt sad since. I can find spurts of happiness with day-to-day activities, but deep down, the hurt is still there. I honestly don't know how to get to that place. I admit I wished her a happy Easter via text. I need to stop doing that, as you all say. Obviously no response. I just find it hard, seeing that she doesn't care about me, and she STILL doesn't want me in her life a year later. Well, over a year. I just want her to knock on my apartment door right now, and I want to be surprised, seeing her there, and have her rush into me, putting her arms around me, holding me tightly, saying, "I'm so so so sorry". 

My life isn't the same as it used to be. I want 'us' back.

Meditation. You need to pull back and just clear your mind completely. Many get to your point and try to push through it, but you're just increasing your feeling of unhappiness when doing so. Honestly. Even if it's just 5 mins, (15 recommend) just breath in, and breath out. Focus on taking deep breaths and sit or lay down confortably. It's so easy. If a thought comes, let it flow away. When you meditate and clear all thought, you will automatically feel your vibration rise, because you stop ALL resistance. Absolutely all, and begin to vibrate with your inner being, who is always happy. Always always. Abraham always suggest this, as it's the absolute best way to pull back. You truly have to do this. It's easy and it does so much for you.

Thank you. What if it only helps momentarily and I go right back to feeling anxious? I wish there were some magic spell haha! I mean a year and a half later and she's STILL ignoring me and doesn't care... that kinda makes me think she won't come around... I can't believe she's still ignoring me. I get so scared when I start to think that maybe it's because of another guy... gah this is so emotionally hard for me!!i don't want to feel this negativity. I haven't found a way out of it and I just feel (at least in this monent) emotionally terrified and sad all at once

I want a way for this pain to end- i mean the pain is just way too much. I want to feel better already. (Sorry just woke up feeling this way). I don't understand how people get out of this. The pain is unbearable!!!

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you really need to focus on fixing your anxiety and depression, before you think about bringing her back.  Focus on those two things first.   If you don't fix those things first, you won't ever get her back and I hate to say it

I honestly want to know, if she never comes back.  What would you do with life?   Would you just be miserable until the day you leave this earth?   

If someone who's never been on this forum, stumbled onto this thread.  They would think you were pathetic.   Being in this much pain because of a girl?

I understand.   People will be in pain when it comes to love.   And cry over guys or girls

But   Look at all the bad thing in this world.   There's people who get killed for no reason.  There's homeless people.  There's sick people.   Theres people starving.   There's people who have had to deal with war their whole life.   Look at people In Syria who got gassed a few weeks ago and been at war for years


You might not have it perfectly.   I mean who does?(besides maybe "the 1 percent and even they have problems).  But you have things, that people would die for.     You don't have to worry about your government using chemical weapons on you


You said. You have a great job. And a cool new house.  Just think about how many people in this world would die to have a place to stay

Start showing more gratitude for the things you have.   Stop stressing over things you don't have, and let it come to you