We all just want this guy to be happy really, don't we?

Meg2222 wrote:

Avaelle wrote:

Meg2222 wrote:

I agree. We are all here to help each other! Maybe this whole thread should be deleted now, start from fresh? xx

I don't think it should be.There is valuable information in this thread. I personally don't use foul words but I understand that my brother here is in a bad place. Some of us just seem "further out of the woods" than him.

I do get where you are coming from. But if someone won't help themselves then there is nothing anyone can say or do to change it.

Maybe YesIWill can just delete the horrible comments so they aren't shown or he be reminded of them? I think I am taking a break from this forum anyway, good luck YesIWill. Hope you find your peace and happiness one day. x

I've experienced major depressive disorder, so I just look at it differently I suppose.

Happy Trails Meg until we cross again.

Sanshi wrote:

YesIWILL wrote:

-When I think of her, or the past with us, or anything about her, I get anxious and sad. Maybe it's because she's out of my life right now?

Simple reason. It's not because she is out of your life, but because you are focused on her being out of your life. Abe talk about the two ends of the stick and you are focused on the absence/lack end of the stick that every subject has. That's what your feelings try to tell you here and it's an valuable information. You feel bad all the time, because you go in the direction you don't want to go all the time. Emotional pain isn't different at all from physical pain. If you would run against a wall, how often would you do it? Probably just once. Then you feel that it hurts and you don't do it again, because you interpret the hurt as a signal that it isn't such a good idea to run against a wall. It's the same with emotional pain. It tells you "stop thinking the thing you are thinking". It's not there to make you suffer, it's there to show you the way. It's there so that you can say "Oh, that doesn't feel good. I think a different thought that feels better". But you don't see the signal as what it is and you run against the wall again and again. It hurts more and more every time you are doing it, but you think that the wall is the problem and want it to go away. It won't go away. Just stop running against it.

YesIWILL wrote:

-With everything else, I believe that I can manifest things and that LoA works. But when it comes to her, I don't believe it. I don't believe she'll be back. (Maybe it's because of what the Pyshcic told me...?)

You haven't believed it before any psychic told you anything. I need to quote Abe again here: A belief is just a thought you keep thinking. I don't know how often I read "This is hopeless" from you in the past year. I think it's safe to assume that you thought it even more than you said it to us. So that is the thought you have practiced and LoA brings you more thoughts like that. It's not so surprising that you believe that you can't get her back. You have a lot of momentum going on.

YesIWILL wrote:

SO I'm stuck in a place where I HAVE to get her back, if that makes sense.

I am sure you have heard a thousand times that we can't have something we think we need. You can obviously survive without her. Why do you think you need her back? (Serious question)

YesIWILL wrote:

I'm stuck in a bad place.

Maybe you want to soothe that story a bit? It's not serving you.

YesIWILL wrote:

I mean I've done and said the most amazing, sweet things, and anyone would be lucky to have a guy like me.

You can't compensate your vibration with all action in the world. You don't give her the chance to react in any other way to it than she did. You have to work on your vibration first. Else nothing will ever change.

YesIWILL wrote:

The only reason I can think that she wouldn't reply to things so heartfelt and after seeing how hard things are for me after she left, is that she's seeing someone else.

Sorry, but that is BS. I got abject messages from exes to which I never replied without having a new guy. Again, it's about your vibration.

YesIWILL wrote:

I can't visualize and stay hopeful, if thoughts of her are just keeping me sad.

In your case, visualising is counterproductive anyway. You are sad, so you are focused on the lack. By visualising, you invest time and energy in attracting even more lack. The only thing that could help you is that you make an effort to feel better and choose different thoughts. If you can't think happy thoughts about her, think about something else. You have to change your vibrational setpoint, else you won't ever come out of this.

Wow! This is just... wow!
I'm am kinda the same boat, but not as much.
I just want her back, but I don't need her back.
I also have these days where my vibrations gets low and I have to fight to get it back up.
So I could really use this.
Thank you 👌👌👌

YesIWILL wrote:

Dan2015 wrote:

You got this man, I think you're WAYYYY too hard on yourself sometimes..     just tell yourself every day, that you have her back... it might seem foreign to you at first   but after awhile you'll really believe it

 

Thanks man. It's so hard. I can't tell you how horrible this feels.  Do I have to say "I have her back"? Or would the Universe take that as me just wanting her back in my life? Do I have to be specific and say something like, "I want X in a loving romantic [insert a million more words here] relationship with me"?

It's all about feelings, bro.
You have to feel you have her back.
Telling yourself "I have her back" without the feeling, changes nothing.
Like, tell me this.
How would you feel if you were back with her right now? Like, RIGHT NOW?

YesIWILL wrote:

Thelawoflove wrote:

YesIWILL wrote:

Yeah I do. I just don't know how. It's like going against my feelings. I feel sad. I've felt sad since. I can find spurts of happiness with day-to-day activities, but deep down, the hurt is still there. I honestly don't know how to get to that place. I admit I wished her a happy Easter via text. I need to stop doing that, as you all say. Obviously no response. I just find it hard, seeing that she doesn't care about me, and she STILL doesn't want me in her life a year later. Well, over a year. I just want her to knock on my apartment door right now, and I want to be surprised, seeing her there, and have her rush into me, putting her arms around me, holding me tightly, saying, "I'm so so so sorry". 

My life isn't the same as it used to be. I want 'us' back.

Meditation. You need to pull back and just clear your mind completely. Many get to your point and try to push through it, but you're just increasing your feeling of unhappiness when doing so. Honestly. Even if it's just 5 mins, (15 recommend) just breath in, and breath out. Focus on taking deep breaths and sit or lay down confortably. It's so easy. If a thought comes, let it flow away. When you meditate and clear all thought, you will automatically feel your vibration rise, because you stop ALL resistance. Absolutely all, and begin to vibrate with your inner being, who is always happy. Always always. Abraham always suggest this, as it's the absolute best way to pull back. You truly have to do this. It's easy and it does so much for you.

Thank you. What if it only helps momentarily and I go right back to feeling anxious? I wish there were some magic spell haha! I mean a year and a half later and she's STILL ignoring me and doesn't care... that kinda makes me think she won't come around... I can't believe she's still ignoring me. I get so scared when I start to think that maybe it's because of another guy... gah this is so emotionally hard for me!!i don't want to feel this negativity. I haven't found a way out of it and I just feel (at least in this monent) emotionally terrified and sad all at once

I want a way for this pain to end- i mean the pain is just way too much. I want to feel better already. (Sorry just woke up feeling this way). I don't understand how people get out of this. The pain is unbearable!!!

If it only helps momentarily, then you do it again. Everyday.
I use meditation everyday. And everytime I feel low. Mediation really is the way to a happy and healthy life.
There's a lot of great mediation videos on YouTube. Find one that you feel connected with. I use the same everytime I meditate. And I get into this happy and beautiful feeling very fast.
So what if she's ignoring you? As said, she CANNOT be you source of happiness.
Go out with friends and meet new people. Maybe a new girl. Your absolute dream girl shows up.
Ask the universe to bring you love and happiness. That the universe will send love your way. Not necessarily your poi. But someone that you will love and that will love you. And if that turns out to be her, then that's great. If it's someone else, then that's great too. Either way, you'll be happy and in love.
It's a win/win situation 👌😊