Think we should pick up at the last post before... you know. Just start there please.

I'm going back to bed. I really hope that when I wake things will be better. That really hurt me.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

No, I am not going to be made responsible for hurting you. I said that to point out to you that you are getting a lot of feedback and support and post views. People are following your story. Stop taking offence at everything where none is intended. 

I dont think he was talking about you hurting him....probably someone else
I think we should not focus on this anymore its making all of us "weird" and vibes are going crazy...Let the guy think about everything send him some good vibes and positive thoughts...Maybe we all just "overeacted" do to the fact he is being so negative all the time...
You nor I not anyone else though is responsible for anyone hurting...we only hurt our selves...

iinikkii wrote:

You're not going to feel any better until you decide that you WANT to feel better MORE than you want that girl back.

This is true and applies to everyone here.
 

YesIWill, I know how badly you're hurting, it feels like you can't possibly take another moment of feeling this way. I know how horrible and soul crushing it is, I've been there too and I feel for you so much because the pain feels unbearable. The thing is, it's hard to know what anyone here can do to help you, what they can say that hasn't already been said. You mentioned that therapy hasn't helped (don't know if you've tried anti-anxiety or antidepressant medications but they helped a TON for me) and you don't have anyone else to turn to. What is it that you're looking for here that you haven't already found? You've found support, kindness, suggestions, and advice, what more can they offer? There really isn't anything. This thread started with your asking for help on how to get rid of the roadblock in your way. Many people offered their thoughts and suggestions, and then the discussion went in circles again. What else can they do? To use this board as your only source of support isn't fair to anyone, especially you. You need and deserve more to take care of yourself and heal.

I'm not sure what the answer is for you but I felt the need to post this. I hope it helps a little. 

 

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Avaelle wrote:

I think you're finding it difficult to apply the methods because you're attempting to do so from a place of hurt and serious depression. When you think about it,  can we really give anything a solid effort when we're so very pained?  I think a good step for you would be to alleviate your darkness. Identify things that make you happy and indulge yourself into them  a lot. When you think you've done enough,  indulge yourself some more so that you feel less suffering. Then,  you can try to apply the methods and possibly have better results.  You need to tip the scale so that things with this woman aren't so heartbreaking for you. 

In addition,  I think you should take a peek at : https://hopeline.com/ . I've used it throughout a point in my life and was able to match up with several people to chat with. The way you're feeling isn't to be played with and I find it important that you match with people that have been trained to not say things that would infuriate ate, sadden or tip you over the edge.  All the best

I feel this is a great suggestion. Especially the website.     I feel like right now he needs to suspend the "loa mindset"(even though loa is a part of everything)

He should try to heal his anxiety and depression before trying to use loa to attract her back,    I remember when I had anxiety about things and was depressed, I couldn't use loa to attract anything positive.   He's just not in the right place right now

I understand. That he says that she is the main happiness, etc.   and there's nothing wrong with her bringing him happiness.       But right now he's prettty obsessed(I don't mean that in the way of trying to bring him down or make him look bad either,  I remember when I was kinda obsessed, it was horrible.  All I wanted to do was sleep and eat)

He just needs to find another form of happiness,  whether it's music,exercising,sports, video games, etc.   and when he's not at work, he just like you said, needs to spend most of his time doing that

The chatline is a great suggestion.    As great as most of the people on this forum are, we aren't really trained how to deal with problems in a professional way, so I feel that's where some of the attitude and rudeness comes from(I feel I've been rude and had an attitude towards him a few times)   Since we at times let frustration get the best of us

Trained people, maybe have a "longer leash" to allow them nor to get irritated


It doesn't matter whether it's loa or anything.     You can gather all the information you want, but if you don't apply it.  Nothing is gonna be fixed.    I could read a million books about how to Fix my car.  But if I don't actually try to apply it on the car, nothing is going to happen

But as you say, it's hard to apply things when you're angry,depressed,etc    Everything feels harder to do

Plus, I feel.  Like his biggest problem is.  He doesn't believe it's possible.   I mean, if I was on a diet.  But in the back of my mind.  I didn't believe it was possible.  I'll most likely overcompensate, force things to happen, try harder, or totally mess up