Meg2222 wrote:

creator1980 wrote:

Meg2222 wrote:

Thank you! I suppose if it's okay? I mean I am doing it for myself. But I still feel a bit guilty, like I'm leaving my love behind. But I also know that I'm not! It's hard to explain haha I guess I'm just not used to doing things for myself without feeling a bit guilty. I'm used to putting everyone else before me and that's what I need to change!! X

I so get what you are saying .....Well don't feel guilty self love and having fun for us is something we should enjoy

Exactly! I shouldn't feel guilty, unfortunately its just something that was embedded in me in my upbringing that I couldn't put myself first. But now I know its essential to inner peace! Thank you xx

Hey i feel guilty sometimes....for example when i flirted with a girl....I felt guilty cause i thought i was using her to get my true desire....or just feeling better so i understand the feeling...so my thought is how can I love such a person (me) and i felt gulity about it...

Bless you 

Meg2222 wrote:

creator1980 wrote:

Meg2222 wrote:

Exactly! I shouldn't feel guilty, unfortunately its just something that was embedded in me in my upbringing that I couldn't put myself first. But now I know its essential to inner peace! Thank you xx

Hey i feel guilty sometimes....for example when i flirted with a girl....I felt guilty cause i thought i was using her to get my true desire....or just feeling better so i understand the feeling...so my thought is how can I love such a person (me) and i felt gulity about it...

Bless you 

It is difficult, I mean I was seeing a guy over Christmas and I thought I was over my POI but it turned out that I had just transferred feelings to the new guy from my POI. So I don't want to make that same mistake again. And just feel better for myself too! God damn all these emotions haha xx

 
Emotions.....respect them I love mine eventually even the guilty ones...used to hate them but now I just embrace them and say move on it happened you don't like it but accept it find another emotion....for me the hard part is deciding between action or no action....

Sanshi wrote:

Meg2222 wrote:

God damn all these emotions haha xx

All that wonderful guidance that is always showing you the way to where you want to be, no matter where you are.

 
Sanshi my guidance shows me I wanna be with my love.....are you sure he isn't just a fool ???that's why he made me feel guilty for flirting 😂😂😂

Sanshi wrote:

creator1980 wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

All that wonderful guidance that is always showing you the way to where you want to be, no matter where you are.

 
Sanshi my guidance shows me I wanna be with my love.....are you sure he isn't just a fool ???that's why he made me feel guilty for flirting 😂😂😂

Your guidance doesn't show you what you want. It shows you the way to it (feeling better - right direction, feeling worse - wrong direction) and how far (strong negative emotion - very far, strong positive emotion - right around the corner) you are from it. It's not the flirting that makes you feel guilty. It's the thoughts you think about the flirting.

I think I understand it better...lets see....so if my thoughts about flirting were positive like that i am a wonderful person who is attracting women i would have a positive emotion and my guidance would say yeah dude you are on the right track?

Sanshi wrote:

creator1980 wrote:

I think I understand it better...lets see....so if my thoughts about flirting were positive like that i am a wonderful person who is attracting women i would have a positive emotion and my guidance would say yeah dude you are on the right track?

I can't tell you exactly which thoughts would be the "right" ones, because every person has different desires and your feelings lead to your specific ones. But you can just test it a little. Think a thought about the topic, feel into it and change it a little bit and watch how your feelings change. For example: "I feel like cheating, I shouldn't do it (baaad)", "It would be fun, if I hadn't her in mind (still bad)", "but maybe I could still make it fun now? (better)", "it doesn't matter with whom I flirt, my love to her isn't in question (much better)".

Awesome thanks for the tip....I actually had that thought last night and made me feel lot better....I said something like ok dude you did something to have fun and make you feel good, you are in love with Χ and no one is questioning that so let go of the guilt.