Dan2015 wrote:

But do a lot of people fear/worry that letting go/giving up on your ex/specific person. Might mean you might fall for someone else, and even though that might be a good thing you don't really want it to happen?

The funny thing is, for the first few months/year. I was like that with my ex. I was Aftaid to give up on her, because I worried what if I found someone and fell deep for them, that would ruin any chances of us getting back together

There seems to be lots of people on here who are afraid of that. It's ironic, they want love so badly, but they're scared to fall in love? They want the love of only this person but scared to be in love with someone better? Most of the time, I think we're all just scared of uncertainty and we want the comfort that we're used to.

Dan2015 wrote:

Technically you wouldn't even be giving up/letting go of your ex/specific person, you would just be giving up the resistance of giving them too much importance in your life, where you begun getting semi obsessed

Now, I don't worry about that. Plus. I hear about people dating someone new and STILL eventually getting back with their ex/getting their specific person

A lot of people don't seem to get this. Not that I'm a LoA master, but I've seen threads on here from people who've been here for a long while as it seems like they don't understand the basics of LoA. I wonder if its a miscommunication issue or just the quick-fix culture that's spread around the forums.

To answer your first question, the reason why I was so scared to let go and move on was because I somehow convinced myself that I'd never meet another girl I'd share this much chemistry with. I'd meet other girls but it'd just fall flat, and then I'd meet her and no matter how much we're off-kilter, the attraction just feels really good. Plus, I'm shy and it felt like hell to force myself to get out there and meet other girls. It's just easier and safer to stay in the comfort zone. Now that my beliefs have changed, I feel very differently about everything now, although I'm still working on getting out of the comfort zone.