In the older days, I had self-esteem issues myself and that's what got me interested in RS. If I could go back in time, I would not have done RS. Instead, I would have worked on releasing my insecurities and raising my vibration. RS doesn't really help you do that and as comforting as the technique might be to some, poor self-esteem is a Hell of its own that RS won't fix. As I became more confident and more of my true self, RS just felt weird and wrong to me, and unnecessary.

It seems like you're doing all of these techniques to get the girl (or rather the feeling and experience of being loved), but at the same time you're not doing anything with your self-esteem issues, or at least you're not making progress. Maybe that's why you keep attracting these situations - they reveal to you your own blocks and insecurities that need to be dealt with.

So having been through this years ago, that's what I would do - stop using techniques to change things and change myself from within instead - find your confidence, self-esteem, self-appreciation, find ways to feel more attractive and confident in yourself.

Last edited by Colonel Roosevelt (2/28/2017 11:54 pm)

Kavik wrote:

its the second time that this happens to me, I like a person and she get in a relationship whit another guy, why??? .

That may be the reason. You were afraid of it happening again, consciously or subconsciously. It happened to me a few time that I attracted something for the first time after I have never had problems with it before and after that it happened again and again. Check your thoughts and choose new onces to not end up in a spiral.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

Was she already seeing someone when you met her at work?

If so that's no reason to have low self-esteem really it's sort of independent of you so certainly nothing you've created or should feel bad about.

Thank you for readme Flamingo, and thank you for your advice, she wasnt seing someone else, she was single like me. 

It's not only that she is with someone else, it's because I don't feel good with myself, with the way I am and I look, somethimes I feel like I'm not good enough and I try to change those thoughts but deep inside of mee I have this feelings about myself....

Last edited by Kavik (3/01/2017 10:21 am)

Sorry for being so negative...

Kavik wrote:

Yesterday, before talking with this girl, I saw me in the mirror and I feelt bad on how I look, and then this....

Weight loss is no exception, LoA applies here as well. As long as you feel bad about your weight, you can eat nothing and work out the whole day and it won't change a thing besides that you will break down. Somehing I noticed with weight loss is this: I tried very hard for a while. I planned my meals, I forced myself to do sports I didn't like, I counted every calory and either I was disciplined enough and there was still no movement on the scale or I started to eat even more and gained weight. Then at one point, I stopped caring about it, I stopped doing all that stuff, I stopped thinking and obsessing about it all day and after a few months, I realized that I had lost weight without doing anything. I just let it go. I stopped struggling against it. You need to feel good about yourself (or at least not bad about yourself) to lose weight.

Kavik wrote:

My problem is that I feel less than others and I have been trying to change but I'm not seing results and this situation, happening again,  took out all of these feelings that I was trying to ignore....

You don't feel less. You just trained yourself to ignore your feelings. When you start to give them more credit and to listen to them more, they will become more intense, you will feel them the moment they arise. Stop telling yourself the story about feeling less and start to focus on what you feel instead. Use it as the guidance system it is. And btw, it is never a good idea to ignore a feeling. The feeling wants to tell you something about what you are thinking consciously or unconsciously. When you feel bad, change the thought behind the feeling.