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BooLala · 3/01/2017 4:43 pm

TheChemist wrote:
BooLala wrote:
TheChemist wrote:
So I know better--gods, do I know better--but I peeked at her Facebook anyway. She unfriended me in, say, July, and I'd avoided it for a long time.

Tonight, though--a half hour ago, which makes me think I'd attracted it by mistake--she posted a picture of her and some guy. I think she's with someone new, and it's really shaken me at my core. I've been doing so well, especially with respect to my emotions and my manifesting, and this....shocks me. And it hurts, for what that's worth.

Can anyone offer some support, or some advice, on how to move past this? Is it over?
Ive got my ex back twice and from what would be called an impossible situation, she moved in and got engaged to her ex. That was 2yrs ago, this time its been nearly 2yrs and shes currently with someone and they have just bought a house together. We dont talk or have any communication and its taken me so long as im so full or rage and anger towards her still.
I find getting an ex back very easy.
What worked for me to get her back from her ex was she wasnt on FB or any social media so was good to not even guess what she was up to or if shes dating....
This is a fascinating story. Can you elaborate? How was it easy, and what made it so? We reunited once before, although a possible rebound wasn't a concern, and I'm feeling a little shaken right now in my faith. Then again, my gut continues to tell me how impossible it is for this to fail.

Basically the first time it happened just over 3yrs ago i basically took a massive step and said to myself shes my girl, my soul mate and true love. I stopped social media, she wasnt on it which was a massive bonus so i didnt know what she was doing, i stayed celebate and visualized what i wanted. Apart from immediate family and close friends, as far as anyone else knew we were still together and when i had women chatting me up i told them i had a missus. It just helped so much not knowing anything about what she was doing.

TheChemist · 3/01/2017 6:58 pm

BooLala wrote:
TheChemist wrote:
BooLala wrote:

Ive got my ex back twice and from what would be called an impossible situation, she moved in and got engaged to her ex. That was 2yrs ago, this time its been nearly 2yrs and shes currently with someone and they have just bought a house together. We dont talk or have any communication and its taken me so long as im so full or rage and anger towards her still.
I find getting an ex back very easy.
What worked for me to get her back from her ex was she wasnt on FB or any social media so was good to not even guess what she was up to or if shes dating....
This is a fascinating story. Can you elaborate? How was it easy, and what made it so? We reunited once before, although a possible rebound wasn't a concern, and I'm feeling a little shaken right now in my faith. Then again, my gut continues to tell me how impossible it is for this to fail.
Basically the first time it happened just over 3yrs ago i basically took a massive step and said to myself shes my girl, my soul mate and true love. I stopped social media, she wasnt on it which was a massive bonus so i didnt know what she was doing, i stayed celebate and visualized what i wanted. Apart from immediate family and close friends, as far as anyone else knew we were still together and when i had women chatting me up i told them i had a missus. It just helped so much not knowing anything about what she was doing.

That's really awesome. What was your time frame on this? I've done some of this—she's definitely my soul mate, and I've made all the internal changes needed to make sure we never separate again. We've not talked via social media in months, and I'll make moves to avoid her there more. I've also started telling people I'm with someone (because I am, truly), and it helps a lot. I'm, starting last night, visualizing more than before, as well as more consistently. I have a feeling, yeah, we're really going to be together: We totally already are.

I'm feeling better, thanks to this group, and things are moving forward here.

TheChemist · 3/01/2017 8:07 pm

Staceylouuu91x wrote:
When myself and an old boyfriend split up before I noticed he'd been tagged in a photo of him hugging another girl. As you can imagine I was devastated, Putting 2+2 together and getting 10, crying he'd moved on so fast. Once I'd calmed down I eventually wound up bringing him back into my life, I brought up the photo and it turns out she was an old friend. All that stress over a friend!

As Sanshi has said maybe take a step back and manifest something smaller and build up from there, I wouldn't worry too much about it, we've all been there.

I actually did this today! While at work, we were talking about the song 'Closer' by the Chainsmokers, and it makes me think of my love due to the line 'You look as good as the day I met you / I forget just why I left you.' I thought, 'I'd really like to hear that song.' On the drive back, lo and behold, a station I don't normally listen to played it as I was channel-surfing!

It's minor, but I felt powerful.

BooLala · 3/02/2017 1:52 am

TheChemist wrote:
BooLala wrote:
TheChemist wrote:

This is a fascinating story. Can you elaborate? How was it easy, and what made it so? We reunited once before, although a possible rebound wasn't a concern, and I'm feeling a little shaken right now in my faith. Then again, my gut continues to tell me how impossible it is for this to fail.
Basically the first time it happened just over 3yrs ago i basically took a massive step and said to myself shes my girl, my soul mate and true love. I stopped social media, she wasnt on it which was a massive bonus so i didnt know what she was doing, i stayed celebate and visualized what i wanted. Apart from immediate family and close friends, as far as anyone else knew we were still together and when i had women chatting me up i told them i had a missus. It just helped so much not knowing anything about what she was doing.
That's really awesome. What was your time frame on this? I've done some of this—she's definitely my soul mate, and I've made all the internal changes needed to make sure we never separate again. We've not talked via social media in months, and I'll make moves to avoid her there more. I've also started telling people I'm with someone (because I am, truly), and it helps a lot. I'm, starting last night, visualizing more than before, as well as more consistently. I have a feeling, yeah, we're really going to be together: We totally already are.

I'm feeling better, thanks to this group, and things are moving forward here.

The time frame from when she first cut me off was 6weeks. Second time when she cut me off got back with her ex and move in and engaged again it took me 6weeks. Its only my anger and rage towards her which is why its 2yrs now. Ive been obsessed in knowing why she cut me off nothing more. As i said she is currently in a serious relationship and they have just bought a house together but i need to truly forgive her not surpress it. I guarantee i could have back within 3months but i need to forgive her first

TheChemist · 3/02/2017 6:56 am

BooLala wrote:
TheChemist wrote:
BooLala wrote:

Basically the first time it happened just over 3yrs ago i basically took a massive step and said to myself shes my girl, my soul mate and true love. I stopped social media, she wasnt on it which was a massive bonus so i didnt know what she was doing, i stayed celebate and visualized what i wanted. Apart from immediate family and close friends, as far as anyone else knew we were still together and when i had women chatting me up i told them i had a missus. It just helped so much not knowing anything about what she was doing.
That's really awesome. What was your time frame on this? I've done some of this—she's definitely my soul mate, and I've made all the internal changes needed to make sure we never separate again. We've not talked via social media in months, and I'll make moves to avoid her there more. I've also started telling people I'm with someone (because I am, truly), and it helps a lot. I'm, starting last night, visualizing more than before, as well as more consistently. I have a feeling, yeah, we're really going to be together: We totally already are.

I'm feeling better, thanks to this group, and things are moving forward here.
The time frame from when she first cut me off was 6weeks. Second time when she cut me off got back with her ex and move in and engaged again it took me 6weeks. Its only my anger and rage towards her which is why its 2yrs now. Ive been obsessed in knowing why she cut me off nothing more. As i said she is currently in a serious relationship and they have just bought a house together but i need to truly forgive her not surpress it. I guarantee i could have back within 3months but i need to forgive her first

Wow, 6 weeks? That's hella impressive. It makes me wonder what it is I'm missing in re-attracting my girl that quickly. Starting this week, though, I'm getting back into a rigid, consistent visualization program, and I'm starting to feel it improving. I'm going to look into further forgiving her, although I thought I'd done that already. Can you offer any advice for making it happen a little more quickly?

BooLala · 3/02/2017 8:12 am

TheChemist wrote:
BooLala wrote:
TheChemist wrote:

That's really awesome. What was your time frame on this? I've done some of this—she's definitely my soul mate, and I've made all the internal changes needed to make sure we never separate again. We've not talked via social media in months, and I'll make moves to avoid her there more. I've also started telling people I'm with someone (because I am, truly), and it helps a lot. I'm, starting last night, visualizing more than before, as well as more consistently. I have a feeling, yeah, we're really going to be together: We totally already are.

I'm feeling better, thanks to this group, and things are moving forward here.
The time frame from when she first cut me off was 6weeks. Second time when she cut me off got back with her ex and move in and engaged again it took me 6weeks. Its only my anger and rage towards her which is why its 2yrs now. Ive been obsessed in knowing why she cut me off nothing more. As i said she is currently in a serious relationship and they have just bought a house together but i need to truly forgive her not surpress it. I guarantee i could have back within 3months but i need to forgive her first
Wow, 6 weeks? That's hella impressive. It makes me wonder what it is I'm missing in re-attracting my girl that quickly. Starting this week, though, I'm getting back into a rigid, consistent visualization program, and I'm starting to feel it improving. I'm going to look into further forgiving her, although I thought I'd done that already. Can you offer any advice for making it happen a little more quickly?

Dont do social media, dont do anything were you might find out what shes up to. First time i was cut off i later found out after she was back in my life that she did sort of date someone for a couple wks, luckily i didnt know anything of what she was up to. Do scripting as well, but make sure that nothing is holding you back, grudges, blame... thats whats holding me back now, i am so full of rage towards my girl

TheChemist · 3/02/2017 10:03 am

BooLala wrote:
TheChemist wrote:
BooLala wrote:

The time frame from when she first cut me off was 6weeks. Second time when she cut me off got back with her ex and move in and engaged again it took me 6weeks. Its only my anger and rage towards her which is why its 2yrs now. Ive been obsessed in knowing why she cut me off nothing more. As i said she is currently in a serious relationship and they have just bought a house together but i need to truly forgive her not surpress it. I guarantee i could have back within 3months but i need to forgive her first
Wow, 6 weeks? That's hella impressive. It makes me wonder what it is I'm missing in re-attracting my girl that quickly. Starting this week, though, I'm getting back into a rigid, consistent visualization program, and I'm starting to feel it improving. I'm going to look into further forgiving her, although I thought I'd done that already. Can you offer any advice for making it happen a little more quickly?
Dont do social media, dont do anything were you might find out what shes up to. First time i was cut off i later found out after she was back in my life that she did sort of date someone for a couple wks, luckily i didnt know anything of what she was up to. Do scripting as well, but make sure that nothing is holding you back, grudges, blame... thats whats holding me back now, i am so full of rage towards my girl

This is really good advice, so thank you for it. I think, after this last blow, I'm off social media for good. I don't want to look at her page or even be signed in any longer. I'd already stopped discussing her with family, and that helped a lot. What sort of scripting do you perform? I've been doing little journal entries about the day, about when she texts or calls, and I keep a dream journal (I dream about her nearly nightly right now).

I also did this really cool thing someone on here suggested. I had been feeling really sad/angry, more from a rough day at work after not sleeping, as well as some frustration with myself and the situation. To get rid of the blame and anger, I first wrote down everything I hated—all my fears, angers, etc. As I wrote, I realized how untruthful they were, and how much they hurt. I got so angry, red-faced, and shouting, that I almost started crying. Then, at the very apex of my frustration, I burned the paper, watching the smoke curl up the stove fan and washing the ashes down the disposal.

Once those lies were gone, I felt fantastic, like a stretched-out rubber band, and I went to bed visualizing heavily. It felt so good that I could almost see her coming toward me. I even had a dream where we were casually flirting and talking about the next time we'd get together. It was amazing.

BooLala · 3/02/2017 10:40 am

TheChemist wrote:
BooLala wrote:
TheChemist wrote:

Wow, 6 weeks? That's hella impressive. It makes me wonder what it is I'm missing in re-attracting my girl that quickly. Starting this week, though, I'm getting back into a rigid, consistent visualization program, and I'm starting to feel it improving. I'm going to look into further forgiving her, although I thought I'd done that already. Can you offer any advice for making it happen a little more quickly?
Dont do social media, dont do anything were you might find out what shes up to. First time i was cut off i later found out after she was back in my life that she did sort of date someone for a couple wks, luckily i didnt know anything of what she was up to. Do scripting as well, but make sure that nothing is holding you back, grudges, blame... thats whats holding me back now, i am so full of rage towards my girl
This is really good advice, so thank you for it. I think, after this last blow, I'm off social media for good. I don't want to look at her page or even be signed in any longer. I'd already stopped discussing her with family, and that helped a lot. What sort of scripting do you perform? I've been doing little journal entries about the day, about when she texts or calls, and I keep a dream journal (I dream about her nearly nightly right now).

I also did this really cool thing someone on here suggested. I had been feeling really sad/angry, more from a rough day at work after not sleeping, as well as some frustration with myself and the situation. To get rid of the blame and anger, I first wrote down everything I hated—all my fears, angers, etc. As I wrote, I realized how untruthful they were, and how much they hurt. I got so angry, red-faced, and shouting, that I almost started crying. Then, at the very apex of my frustration, I burned the paper, watching the smoke curl up the stove fan and washing the ashes down the disposal.

Once those lies were gone, I felt fantastic, like a stretched-out rubber band, and I went to bed visualizing heavily. It felt so good that I could almost see her coming toward me. I even had a dream where we were casually flirting and talking about the next time we'd get together. It was amazing.

I havent done any scripting or visualizing now as im still to full of rage and hurt, i am no way anywhere near ready to begin to manifest her back... i just seem to surpress anger no matter how much i try to release it. But the scripting i did was just about the relationship, i never wrote about the day or things we did. I wrote what i loved about her, looked at a pick of her and said thank you for giving me my soul mate and true love back. I wrote how we are magnetized to one another.. never did any of this about writing about the ideal day. I wrote over and over about the relationship itself

TheChemist · 3/02/2017 11:37 am

BooLala wrote:
I havent done any scripting or visualizing now as im still to full of rage and hurt, i am no way anywhere near ready to begin to manifest her back... i just seem to surpress anger no matter how much i try to release it. But the scripting i did was just about the relationship, i never wrote about the day or things we did. I wrote what i loved about her, looked at a pick of her and said thank you for giving me my soul mate and true love back. I wrote how we are magnetized to one another.. never did any of this about writing about the ideal day. I wrote over and over about the relationship itself

Man, that quote chain was getting intense. I'm sorry you're experiencing so much rage in your situation. It's actually really sweet that you're still in love with her, despite all that. I like the idea of writing more all-encompassing things like that, about what you love of her and your time together and all. The journal thing feels good, but also cheesy sometimes. I'm going to adopt what you've suggested here.

BooLala · 3/02/2017 11:53 am

TheChemist wrote:
BooLala wrote:
I havent done any scripting or visualizing now as im still to full of rage and hurt, i am no way anywhere near ready to begin to manifest her back... i just seem to surpress anger no matter how much i try to release it. But the scripting i did was just about the relationship, i never wrote about the day or things we did. I wrote what i loved about her, looked at a pick of her and said thank you for giving me my soul mate and true love back. I wrote how we are magnetized to one another.. never did any of this about writing about the ideal day. I wrote over and over about the relationship itself
Man, that quote chain was getting intense. I'm sorry you're experiencing so much rage in your situation. It's actually really sweet that you're still in love with her, despite all that. I like the idea of writing more all-encompassing things like that, about what you love of her and your time together and all. The journal thing feels good, but also cheesy sometimes. I'm going to adopt what you've suggested here.

Doesnt matter if it's cheesy or not. Whatever gives you the feeling. Its all about you focusing and having that clear head and mind set and not settling for less. When you get your missus back, you wont think its cheesy then.
My steps are firstly make sure its definitely what you want. Have that clear direction. Make sure the past is past and nothing is holding you back, resentment, anger, guilt... then your on to a winner.
Once you got the clear head and ready then its just a case of the universe doing its magic.