1 - YesIWILL
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I'll be sending her a birthday message
Over Facebook.
I shouldn't I know, based on what Veronica says, but i feel as though a birthday is a special day where if you like the person, not saying something would assume disinterest from the other side, etc. so I don't want people trying to persuade me not to, or telling me that it's a bad idea.
So what I'm asking of all of you, what kind of stuff should I say? I'd like to make it heartfelt so it hits a nerve with her - in a good way - we haven't spoken since September and I sent her the gifts in January. Her birthday is in the second week of March.
Help me come up with something non creepy? Something that'll make her regret losing me?;)
I've got this. I know I do. I just thought I'd ask for some help with what to say to make it heartfelt, non-creepily.
Again please no "don't do this" or "you'll regret it" etc. it's her special day. Thanks!!
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Re: I'll be sending her a birthday message
Doing what she requests could be a sign of respect.
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- YesIWILL
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Re: I'll be sending her a birthday message
Avaelle wrote:
Doing what she requests could be a sign of respect.
Right but. I'm going to do this as I said in my first post lol. Again I'm needing help from users about what to say lol
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Thread Starter- big_blue
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Happy Birthday.
For me personally, it makes me feel good to know someone took a moment out of their day to think of me, regardless of what their intention is or how I feel about them.
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- YesIWILL
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Happy Birthday.
For me personally, it makes me feel good to know someone took a moment out of their day to think of me, regardless of what their intention is or how I feel about them.
Haha thank you
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Thread Starter- PrettyFlamingo
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Re: I'll be sending her a birthday message
I did this with my ex. He hadn't told me to leave him alone or anything but we hadn't spoken in years - he had just vanished. I saw him on LinkedIn and he had a new number. On his birthday I texted simply Happy Birthday. He didn't recognise the number and replied "thanks but who is this?" I replied that it was me, seen his profile and just told him I'd changed jobs. That was November 2015 and he never replied. BTW I wasn't trying to get back with him.
If you really must wish her a happy birthday, as you are Facebook friends you will get a notification asking you to write on her wall. Just do that and say happy birthday, have a good day, nothing stand out. That would show you remember but you're not going overboard. Seriously no grand gesture that would backfire.
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Doing what she requests could be a sign of respect.
Right but. I'm going to do this as I said in my first post lol. Again I'm needing help from users about what to say lol
I know. I'm being hard headed. LOL
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Re: I'll be sending her a birthday message
Just say "happy birthday, I hope you have an amazing day". Leave it at that, don't expect anything in return. Do it. Cause it will make you happy
- YesIWILL
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Re: I'll be sending her a birthday message
PF, her family and sister thinks I'm creepy so I don't think I'll do that. But thank you
Dan, I completely agree. I'm trying hard not to expect anything in return. I really do want her back.
... I know I shouldn't but before she left my life's she was hinting that she was seeing someone else. I don't want to think that into existence and I'm trying hard not to worry about it LOL. Any suggestions? I do really want her back in a new non-toxic and mutually-satisfying relationship.
I do want to put a bit more than "happy birthday". I don't want to be "just a guy" maybe adding in something sweet is a good idea, I don't know.
But I never heard back from her about the gift I sent her. I wonder if she ever listened to the song I wrote for her... I wonder if she appreciated the gift...
I just need to find a way to not let my worries get the best of me no matter how "real" or "legit" they are in my current reality. Trying hard
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Thread Starter- Suzy
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Re: I'll be sending her a birthday message
If you are going to send a message. Don't you think it would be best to keep it simple? Anything more than that she may not take it well based on your previous experience.
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