Keep going! Resistance can be natural on the part of the other person, but if this is your ex and you didn't do something totally horrible to them, they're still going to have some residual positive feelings toward you (the degree will vary depending on your situation). Resistance is often a sign that it IS getting through to them and they feel that they have something to actively fight AGAINST, that being their conflicted feelings about you/the situation. If they didn't care, there would be no need for active resistance. 

Their "logic" may be fighting at first, but we're aiming for the heart more so than the head. If it's someone who loved you, it's a short leap for those feelings to begin to tip more in the positive column again. Resistance is a sign of anxiety. Anxiety is indication of movement on their part in my experience with instances like this.

Patience, persistence, confidence, and when  you interact with them, lean toward a logical, reasoned, rational, calm, and relaxed approach. You're already appealing to his FEELINGS with LoA. 

Thanks, Avaelle! 

In my case, (my love has a history of being hardheaded, stubborn, and rebellious when he feels he needs to be, but I'm rewriting that belief), people don't really rebel if you make them feel there is nothing to rebel AGAINST. So you can pour your genuine joy and love (as long as there's no desperation or feeling of lack in it) into your RS techniques so that your real world interactions with them are able to be more calm, collected, and casual.

That will allow them to feel more relaxed energy from you and put them more at ease. It's working, don't give up on yourself. We're all rooting for you.

The honest answer is, you DON'T know for sure, but it doesn't matter. I would not initiate contact anymore. The whole point of RS is to inspire them to action, not the other way around. I'm sensing a lot of anxiety in your questions. Is it possible that you're initiating contact with him out of anxiety? If so, that's counterproductive to your goal. 

You KNOW your RS is working (and if you don't, you SHOULD because it always works if you're visualizing with intent), so there's no reason for you to apply anxiety to the issue. You apply the correct emotional approach, it is already done. It EXISTS, it's just still coming.

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BellaLupa wrote:

Keep going! Resistance can be natural on the part of the other person, but if this is your ex and you didn't do something totally horrible to them, they're still going to have some residual positive feelings toward you (the degree will vary depending on your situation). Resistance is often a sign that it IS getting through to them and they feel that they have something to actively fight AGAINST, that being their conflicted feelings about you/the situation. If they didn't care, there would be no need for active resistance. 

Their "logic" may be fighting at first, but we're aiming for the heart more so than the head. If it's someone who loved you, it's a short leap for those feelings to begin to tip more in the positive column again. Resistance is a sign of anxiety. Anxiety is indication of movement on their part in my experience with instances like this.

Patience, persistence, confidence, and when  you interact with them, lean toward a logical, reasoned, rational, calm, and relaxed approach. You're already appealing to his FEELINGS with LoA. 

Thanks for this Bella.  Sorry to hijack and this is probably a stupid question but how do you know if they are resisting your PW/BWD etc? If there are no signs from them, as in my case my love has replied on the few instances I have reached out, he just doesn't initiate contact anymore.  How would I know he's resisting or is him not initiating contact resisting?  I genuinely believed he'd message me a happy birthday today (he's bound to have seen the messages from my friends etc wishing me it on fb) but he's not said a thing.

Hope this makes sense.

He would block you, be a bit rude, push away from you,  not contact you yet. Stuff like that.