Take the time to heal. Trying to use LoA right now will do no good for you.

Any tips on healing?

Dear, healing takes time. It can't happen overnight. I suggest that you watch out your thoughts. Do not revisit what went wrong between you in your mind. Focus on what you want to happen. Create that in your mind. Rinse. Repeat. 

He ended up making arrangements with my roommate to come by after 7 last night to drop my stuff off. I hadn't gone out for the night yet, so I went into my room before he came to sit with the lights off and did some guided meditation with my headphones on so that he would think I was not home. I need to spend time on me and getting good before the next time I see him.

He tried to go to my room to put my stuff in there, but my roommate stopped him and said "I'm not comfortable with letting you into her room when she's not here. Just leave it on the couch, please." He apparently looked totally confused and shocked, as if it was sinking in that he's no longer in a position to enter my bedroom without my permission. She said he seemed unusually stoic and somber and left quickly.

I saw one of his roommates (who is a good friend of mine) for drinks awhile after he left, and the roommate was surprised at how centered and together I seemed.

He said that my love has been pretty solemn and seemed sad the last few days and is spending a lot of time alone. He, like me, believes very much that my love and I are inevitably going to come back together after we've taken some time to work on ourselves, focus on addressing our respective issues, and bettering things in our own lives so we can have the relationship we're meant to. Once he's a little more stable in his life, he's "going to recognize that (you) were a huge stabilizing strengthening factor in his life that made it so much better".

There are still plenty of things in his room and house that I gave him or are connected to memories we have together. I won't be at the party at his house this weekend and he's gonna be feeling that absence something fierce. It's only a matter of time.

In the meantime, I am taking a lot of time for myself and doing my best to enjoy it. Yes, I'm doing my visualizations on him, but also taking time to do some self-empowering onesS. I'm reaching out to friends more to make plans, pampering myself, and even had an unusually human and nice heart-to-heart with my usually-*****-monster boss on the phone the other day.

I can do this. I'm doing it.