How do I positively imagine the rebound relationship ending?

Last edited by CarpeDiem (8/10/2015 1:16 pm)

I'm been in a funk the past couple of days after finding out about the rebound. I do believe it's a rebound and I am trying not to see this person remotely being relevant, but it pops in my mind. I am trying my best not to give it energy.

I am been sad and it's been hard trying to get out of this funk. I have been having a hard time viszualizing and meditating and have put it off the last two days.

What i need right now is encoruagement, or advice from all of you. When I got here I was in that funk state and immediately raised my vibrations to happiness, I may not have been 100% but I was so happy getting here. It disppoainted getting rejected by him again.

I started therapy yesterday. I met with a life coach yesterday.

I feel like I put it off for too long and need to vent out everything I went through the past few months. I made strives to feel better through help here but deep down I have been depressed with everything and staying here on these sites turns out was just a veil, I didn't feel great internally.

I felt relieved after talking to the therapist. For a long time I blamed myself for a lot of things in my life. And he made me feel great. I found out that I need to stop blaming myself for everything, a lot of things were not my fault, dad getting sick, ex... etc...

The only thing that hurt was that after talking about my ex and every single nitty gritty detail he was able to find out a lot about both of us. He says he ex is a very toxic person, commitment issues, a narcasisst, possessive etc. We may have stayed a long time together, he said he has a lot of issues which in turn ruined our relationship. It was mainy him. He said my issue is I have low self esteem. And it seems to be the reason why my exes have mainly been with guys that are subpar, the reason why break up affected me this much was this was the first one i ever talked with about marrige, kids a future, and we were very serious.

I care about him a lot but he said I need to stop trying to change someone who doesn't want to. He said we are very compatible people its just he has a lot of personal demons he can't face. He hasn't come out and he's 26 and still lives at home, doesn't stay single at all after a break up from pevious relationships, and his very first ex seems to have ruined him how abusive and emotionally controlling the other guy was to my ex. The rebound is a prime example that he isn't happy with himself and shows he has commitment issues. the way he left shows he can't handle problems. Whether or not he meant he was never happy with me is debateble, he might of meant he was never happy with himself. either way its pointless but I am happy now that I can stop blaming myself.

It hurts don't get me wrong but it was an eye opener. The therapist is now going to help me get rid of all these feelings I harbor from so may things, feeings only hurt you because you let them, they can altered.

The therapist made me see my worth, I am intelligent, I got accepted into the school of my dreams, I have ambitions and am on a different page in my life. I may have made myself look needy and crazy but I needed to stop because I have alot of worth. My ex and I are different pages in our lives it seems. He said it's best to just let it go, he isn't right for me.

with that said it sucks but I need to eradicate everything that has happened, and I think this will help me.

Last edited by CarpeDiem (8/13/2015 1:24 pm)

It just sucks that he believe my ex isn't worth it and i need to leave. He's toxic.

He also didn't like that I was using LOA and reading Books like the secret. I should've started a while ago getting help, as he says everything that happened was traumatic for me. He said that these things give people false hope, a pseudoscience, some things just aren't meant to be and my ex isn't good for me.

Baby_r wrote:

CarpeDiem wrote:

It just sucks that he believe my ex isn't worth it and i need to leave. He's toxic.

He also didn't like that I was using LOA and reading Books like the secret. I should've started a while ago getting help, as he says everything that happened was traumatic for me. He said that these things give people false hope, a pseudoscience, some things just aren't meant to be and my ex isn't good for me.

Ok maybe you need to find another therapist that you connect with. He seems really negative and not encouraging at all.

My therapist was empathetic when i told him my situation. I did mention the secret to him but he had never heard of it. He was abit confused about Vee though but as was I. One min he would say you guys are practically together etc n then the next he would wuestion me why i want to be with someone like vee who is scared to commit etc. but i ignored those things coz deep down no one knows vee like I do so no one will understand the relationship we had.  And same goes for you, no one will understand the relationship you had except for yourself.

I agree ! You are the only person who can create your reality no one else can , you have to make the decision for yourself if you want to give up on him or not , I'm just finally realizing I have all the power to create and change my reality and you cannot keep dwelling on your past and everything that went wrong and keep bringing it up or you'll stay in a negative vibration ( cherished on this forumn has helped me so much to realize that ) you have the power your therapist doesn't you can change this you can make everything a new don't give up if you truly want him back we are all in this journey together

Last edited by Love5278 (8/13/2015 3:58 pm)