From an outside perspective it would seem like you're nervous. It's happened to me before where I would want something or someone and as soon as I'm getting close I want nothing to do with it like I'm afraid. you might just be nervous about actually meeting this person soon. I'd distract myself for a bit and go back and see if I still get that feeling again. Hope this helps (:

Agreed, you're definitely nervous, he kinda confessed to you too. Try meditating and calm yourself.

Hey that had happened to me too when my love first met me and used to go mad over me. I used to feel nervous. But i guess right now you aren't sure what you really want. So just stroll a bit. Do interesting stuffs to take your mind off from that or just meditate. With time you will understand what you want. You know universe keep sending intuitive signals. Which guides you towards what you truly desire. So be calm and quite your mind (by focusing on breathing) to receive that intuitive nudge. Hope this helps. 😄

Last edited by Scarlet Angel (11/26/2016 12:23 am)

Thank you guys for all of your input.

MF3 wrote:

From an outside perspective it would seem like you're nervous. It's happened to me before where I would want something or someone and as soon as I'm getting close I want nothing to do with it like I'm afraid. you might just be nervous about actually meeting this person soon. I'd distract myself for a bit and go back and see if I still get that feeling again. Hope this helps (:

I know exactly what you are talking about. I once sat in the train on the way to meet a guy and a part of me just wanted to take the next train back or hide under the seat. ;D But I think that's not the case this time. Normally, a part of me still wanted it, but this time I feel like dropping this guy completely from one minute to the other. We wouldn't be able to meet up before April anyway I think. So it's still a long time and no reason to be nervous now.

HisladyHislove wrote:

I would have to agree with Mf3 on this one, Sanshi. I truly believe that you are nervous..I had a similar situation the other week when I was talking/joking with one of my coworkers-and it honestly had nothing to do with what he said-but it was just in that moment I got an overwelming feeling of I am always overlooked; disregarded; ignored; etc. and I mean I spiraled down-had nothing to do with what he said but I went there from that conversation. Shared that example to say I do not really believe it was what your new person said-but something that was said triggered you.
Just BREATHE. You're good. It honestly sounds like he wants to make sure that you are really digging him too.... :-)
I take it as a good thing that he is acting this into you and you have yet to meet. Take your time; don't overthink....That is one of those things that I have been guilty of it. ENJOY the moments. Nothing feels as good as new or rekindled love! Sending peace and love your way!

Yeah, that is one of the BIG things I have learned through LoA. It's never about the other person, it's always about us and it feels much better to look inside than to try to understand and interpret the behaviour of another.

You are most probably right, he just wants to know what's going on in my head. I know what's going on in his, because I planted it there, but he can't know it the other way around. Poor guy.

I get better in not overthinking, because my guidance kicks in the moment I have a not so good thought and now, I feel it immediately. Thank you.

Blissful wrote:

This is interesting that what he asked caused such a reaction in you.. I can only speculate as to why so I would first suggest asking yourself some questions as to why you are feeling this way. When we find what our resistance is or what it is we don't want it helps us to determine what outcome would please us better. Possibly this change in his behaviour has confused you and got you doubting his character/personality.. Possibly as the others have suggested you are nervous? as I don't know your personality maybe openly flirting with someone you haven't met in person is a little outside your comfort zone? - again I could be totally off the mark! Whatever the reason, this should be seen as a positive step forward, be happy he has put himself out there and he is wanting to give you some attention! This is all good stuff my unicorn friend! 

Lol, I love that you said it's interesting, because when I woke up and the emotions weren't as strong as yesterday, I thought "That's a pretty interesting reaction". ;D It's good to see something as interesting, because it's a pretty neutral place to start.
I guess I need some time to overthink what I was thinking and what it is I don't want. It happened really late yesterday and I went to bed right after I posted. So, I just had some sleepless hours tonight to think about it.
I think your assumption is pretty accurate. I don't even know what he means with flirting and my definition of it is completely different. If I had met him in person, things would definitely be different for me and I probably wouldn't be writing this right now. Thanks for the input.

Scarlet Angel wrote:

Hey that had happened to me too when my love first met me and used to go mad over me. I used to feel nervous. But i guess right now you aren't sure what you really want. So just stroll a bit. Do interesting stuffs to take your mind off from that or just meditate. With time you will understand what you want. You know universe keep sending intuitive signals. Which guides you towards what you truly desire. So be calm and quite your mind (by focusing on breathing) to receive that intuitive nudge. Hope this helps. 😄

Until yesterday, I thought I wanted him, but now I'm really not sure anymore. I think you are right and going off the subject and to vanish into thin air for a while is the best thing I can do right now. I already learned that we can't find the answer to a question from the vibration of the question. So, assuming that the problem is already solved and moving on to a different topic isn't such a bad idea.

tessy wrote:

Hey Girl...

U meeting someone online...finding him "nice" is a mutual feeling....I know about him due to our previous discussions and honestly, I see no harm in this conversation. He has that "FAITH" in you to feel a little naughty (ok...maybe off the track) sometimes. But you have not met him yet, so the same with him, he's taking it lightly, so should you. I completely understand when u feel nervous thinking "oh am I just for flirting??  " My love did the same after being together for more than a year....Imagine what I felt when words coming from him after so long "that I was just flirting"....but I feel he's being honest at the beginning....you can choose what u want now....if you are ok being in a nice fun no string attached relationship RIGHT NOW....and go with the flow....or do u want to sound like "NO I AM A SERIOUS GIRL"......Trust me that will scare him, instead I feel you should take it easy and tell him EXACTLY what you feel like "I am not much into flirting though I do find u attractive but I dont appreciate being only a flirt material" (Say this only if u feel so, this was just an example)
ou can choose to be a nice "chilled out" gal and at the same time be the same "Sanshi" u are...the sensible intelligent one....show him the super combination that u are and plssssssssss do not give him the vibe that U ONLY WANT A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP....Men are scared....they themselves dont know what they want....hang on till u meet, then take a call.....till then just be like a fun filled chilled out girl who has her own happy world and he's lucky to be a part of it.......love u !!!

It's not even that he gives me the feeling that I were just a flirt for him, I'm in control anyway. The way he talks suggests that he is serious about me (he has to, because I attracted that ;D). I don't even need a relationship right now, but flirting with random guys isn't what I want. So he either has to accept that or not, but that's my decision. Don't worry, I won't have the "I want a relationship NOW or leave me alone forever" talk. ;) I tried that once and it went terribly wrong, lol.
"Men are scared". Haven't we talked about limiting beliefs around men? Right now, I feel more that I'm scared and don't know what I want. If he would disappear today and never show up again, I wouldn't even care so much to be honest.