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Hello everybody.
Today was a hard day. The past week my ex boyfriend contacted me (after 5 months of NC) and wanted to see me this week but didn't set a day.
I waited all week for him to remember what he said but he simply never texted me again.
Yesterday I was so angry and frustrated that at the end of the night I texted him this: "Don't look for me more. NEVER."
Clearly Now I am so repented for that. I don't know if he responded because I blocked him immediately. Next day, today, I unblocked him on whatsapp and obviously he didn't talked to me. ( I know I am a loser)
Thank God he didn’t block me (I can see him online) even when I deserve it.
Now I don't know how to start again. Im not sure if I should say sorry. I don't know what to do!!!!
All i know is I want to be with him again
Should I text him again saying sorry or not?
Do I have a possibility to clear this mess? And how?
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I am reading so many great articles about loa (the ones I shared) but still need your words guys!
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No don't text him again. You can clear ANYTHING up. But it's not about taking physical action. It's about cleaning up your VIBRATION! Which is currently really messy! And that's ok, but it won't get you what you want. So you need to slow down, resist the urge to do any more damage and turn towards yourself. You really must understand that you get to decide at every moment how your life is going to be. And you seem to have forgotten that momentarily. Be gentle with yourself. You need to find some balance, wether that be in meditation, yoga, exercise, getting out in nature.. Do it. And focus on things to appreciate for now. There is so so much for you to be grateful for. Cultivate this. And leave your guy out of the picture until you can steadily think about him in joy. That will take some time. Be OK with that. You're not in a race, you want the guy forever.. So let it be OK that this will take a little time.
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Cherished you are right on the money Jenny you need to get off the roller coaster of " I love him I want him " abd " I'm angry with you and want to make you know it" get yourself in a place of happiness and allowing perhaps after he contacted you doubts sprang up ? you replayed an argument? Alll the about that Cherished is suggesting will help with that ANYTHING can be fixed we are all here to help each other
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As hard as it is, you should avoid sending messages like that. I have been in similar situations with many people (not just my guy). Whenever I stayed calm, they would contact me later, were really sorry and ALWAYS made up for it. If I sent similar messages (and I have sent loads of them :-D), they wud just shut down.
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kizikay wrote:
As hard as it is, you should avoid sending messages like that. I have been in similar situations with many people (not just my guy). Whenever I stayed calm, they would contact me later, were really sorry and ALWAYS made up for it. If I sent similar messages (and I have sent loads of them :-D), they wud just shut down.
Do you mean that when you sent to people similar messages to mine, they never contacted you again?
:,( I am scared
you are saying I should say sorry? I am really hesitant to reach out for him because I don't wanna hear him to say something that would make me sad.
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Jenny wrote:
kizikay wrote:
As hard as it is, you should avoid sending messages like that. I have been in similar situations with many people (not just my guy). Whenever I stayed calm, they would contact me later, were really sorry and ALWAYS made up for it. If I sent similar messages (and I have sent loads of them :-D), they wud just shut down.
Do you mean that when you sent to people similar messages to mine, they never contacted you again?
:,( I am scared
you are saying I should say sorry? I am really hesitant to reach out for him because I don't wanna hear him to say something that would make me sad.
I'm new to this. But I don't think you should text him at all, people have gotten back together in way worse situations. I know it's hard. Trust me. If I could. I would text my girl right now and apologize for everything. But that type of stuff. Just pushed them away more I notice. Like in a few weeks or months when you guys talk again. I doubt he will even remember
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barbidoll wrote:
Cherished you are right on the money Jenny you need to get off the roller coaster of " I love him I want him " abd " I'm angry with you and want to make you know it" get yourself in a place of happiness and allowing perhaps after he contacted you doubts sprang up ? you replayed an argument? Alll the about that Cherished is suggesting will help with that ANYTHING can be fixed we are all here to help each other
Yes, when he contacted me I was still a mess emotionally. Literally I was reading a book when something about it reminded me my ex. So I start crying and then I heard a notification and there it was his message. I cried even more a couple of minutes... so you are right I was still in a roller coaster.
Thank you!!!! I feel great in this forum, there's no way I could make it with out all of you
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Ok now get off that ride honey! Don't talk about it anymore. Let it go and focus on raising your vibration again. In your mind, delete that story and do your utmost not to go back and revisit it.. it will fade and your guy won't remember it soon.
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Cherished wrote:
No don't text him again. You can clear ANYTHING up. But it's not about taking physical action. It's about cleaning up your VIBRATION! Which is currently really messy! And that's ok, but it won't get you what you want. So you need to slow down, resist the urge to do any more damage and turn towards yourself. You really must understand that you get to decide at every moment how your life is going to be. And you seem to have forgotten that momentarily. Be gentle with yourself. You need to find some balance, wether that be in meditation, yoga, exercise, getting out in nature.. Do it. And focus on things to appreciate for now. There is so so much for you to be grateful for. Cultivate this. And leave your guy out of the picture until you can steadily think about him in joy. That will take some time. Be OK with that. You're not in a race, you want the guy forever.. So let it be OK that this will take a little time.
I want this guy forever and if there's something beyond forever then that's my call.
Thank you Cherished, I am totally willing to wait, willing to clear my vibration. I am going to the gym on Monday and start going at least 3 times a week in order to focus on me. And all the beautiful things around me.
I am not going to text him, I am going to attract him back but this time I am going to be fine without him and wait for him to notice how much I love him and how much worthily I am of his love and attention but I know it is going to take time. I remember I had the same problems during my relationship with him, he used to tell me "all in due time babygirl" whenever I rushed things.