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11/15/2016 12:08 am  #1


Is this situation salvageable and reversible?

My ex and I dated for 2 and half years and were each other's first love, first kiss, first relationship etc, except there was nothing past first base as she is adament on being abstienent until marriage so I respected her wishes. I don't know how big of an effect that could have on the grand scheme of things. She broke up with me July 2015 as we were both heading off to different cities for college and the communication between us had started to diminish and I take full responsibility for that.  We went through no contact and everything and then December 2015 we decide to meet and she says she doesn't know what she wants when I ask her if she wants to give us another go so I tell her that's okay and accept to just be friends because this woman is just perfect and I was extremely lucky to have her as a friend let alone as a girlfriend. Fast forward to summer 2016 and we had steadily gotten to the point of talking daily and were meeting up atleast weekly just to hang out as friends. Late July comes around and we hang out and then she drops the question "do you still love me?" I reply with "of course." So she answers with "I want to try us again." The moment I had been waiting for for a year and it comes at the most inoportune time because I realize I'm in a big predicament as I go on to vacation to New York for a week and then straight after I go back to college and would not see her again for several months due to both of us having a busy schedule.  Against my better judgement I tell her "I still love you, and I really want to try us again but I don't think now is the best time given that we have such little time to build up a good foundation before being separated for so long" and she just broke down into tears and I hugged her for a good 45minutes before she eventually stopped. We agreed to just stay as we were as friends and revisit the subject when a better time came about. Since then we had maintained our norm of talking daily but then out of the blue one day in late October 2016, I realize she blocked me on everything and when I asked what caused it she said "Yeah, sorry, I don't think it's a good idea that we keep talking right now, we're both moving on and it's just getting to complicated. This is what's best for me right now. I wish you good luck in the future though and hope you're happy. We shouldn't talk anymore." Recently found out she is seeing this other guy and it looks serious. Her mom told my mom that "(girl) has decided to move forward with her life and made to decision to stop communicating with (me).  It was a very difficult decision and she did not make it overnight.  She in no way wanted to hurt (me) but felt like she needed to protect her feelings. (Girl) just can't talk to him and it would be best if he did not contact her." I've already made some mistakes in dealing with this as I left a long letter on her doorstep describing what she means to me.

Any help/advice would be much appreciated, thanks!

 

11/15/2016 4:02 am  #2


Re: Is this situation salvageable and reversible?

To be honest, when I read the first few words of your post, I skipped the rest besides the last sentence. Why? Aside from reading that kind of stories every day and not being really interested in it, it has no relevance at all. The only thing it does is recreating your story. First in your mind, then on the screen, then in your reality and I guess you didn't tell us your story, because it was great, but because something went terribly wrong.
So, your situation is reversible. I can tell you that without knowing what has happened, because circumstances don't matter at all. Reversible isn't even the right word. There is nothing you have to fix. I even think people wanting to fix things is one of the reasons why they don't have success. Don't paint over that awful drawing, create a new one. Don't focus on What Is and What Was, focus on your new reality.
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"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."

Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
 

11/15/2016 7:34 am  #3


Re: Is this situation salvageable and reversible?

yesย  I agreeย ย ย ย  Create a new perfect situationย ย ย ย  see what happens

 

11/15/2016 10:42 am  #4


Re: Is this situation salvageable and reversible?

My apologies Sanshi, I felt like my situation was very unique. That's why I provided all the backstory so that people could understand where I was coming from.

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11/15/2016 10:46 am  #5


Re: Is this situation salvageable and reversible?

Kev2125 wrote:

My apologies Sanshi, I felt like my situation was very unique. That's why I provided all the backstory so that people could understand where I was coming from.

I think I have more reason to apologise than you.ย ย  I just wanted to point out that it really doesn't matter. Your past has no relationship to your future, only you think that relationship into existance. So you can drop your story completely and tell a different, better one.


"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."

Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
 

11/15/2016 10:50 am  #6


Re: Is this situation salvageable and reversible?

What Sanshi said is right. I'm sorry if this comes across as too blunt but if you want to manifest a relationship in any sense you have to let go of the past. Whatever happened or didn't happen, irrelevant. You can't change the past but you can change how you think about it, you're in your perfect relationship with this person you love dearly and that's what you focus on. You ignore your current reality because you have this person already, focus on that and not lack. Focus on making yourself happy too, that;s important. What you want already exists, once you align with it then it'll manifest into your reality. Your situation will be what you make of it.ย โ€‹


It Is Not What Happens To You, It Is How You Respond To It.ย 
 

11/15/2016 11:39 am  #7


Re: Is this situation salvageable and reversible?

Staceylouuu91x wrote:

You can't change the past

I have to disagree with that. You can change the past. It just exists in your thoughts and that means you can change it. The benefit of a changed past is that the present has to change accordingly.
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"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."

Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
 

11/15/2016 9:30 pm  #8


Re: Is this situation salvageable and reversible?

Sanshi wrote:

Staceylouuu91x wrote:

You can't change the past

I have to disagree with that. You can change the past. It just exists in your thoughts and that means you can change it. The benefit of a changed past is that the present has to change accordingly.
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Hold on i dont agree 100% with this. The past is the past...HOWEVER you can let it not control your future and not let it define your future. It wont matter what happen then. Just acept heal from it and know that the future is better and brighter and bigger than the past

 

11/15/2016 10:12 pm  #9


Re: Is this situation salvageable and reversible?

xoSam wrote:

Beautiful_1 wrote:

Sanshi wrote:


I have to disagree with that. You can change the past. It just exists in your thoughts and that means you can change it. The benefit of a changed past is that the present has to change accordingly.
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Hold on i dont agree 100% with this. The past is the past...HOWEVER you can let it not control your future and not let it define your future. It wont matter what happen then. Just acept heal from it and know that the future is better and brighter and bigger than the past

Both methods work. ๐Ÿ˜Š

You can revise the past or just let it go entirely.

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Exactly! Everyone believes in different things. It whatever makes you happy and confident. Everyone can still get what they want no matter what.

 

11/15/2016 10:33 pm  #10


Re: Is this situation salvageable and reversible?

No need to apologize Sanshi, blunt is good! I'm brand new to this whole concept as I just stumbled upon this page yesterday. I'm still in the very beginning of all this and the process it takes to get the results I want so all advice is welcomed!

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