That decision lies totally within you. However, through educating ourselves with law attraction we do know that we have the power to change ANYTHING that is in our current reality. I know we really focus on Abraham and other well known teachers but my journey started with The Secret and I recently read the Power and in it there is an example of a married woman who is on the verge of divorcing her husband. The first step she took was to go on a rampage of appreciation for that person. As her feelings and thoughts began to change, so did the way she saw him and was able to shift the focus and after time they fell madly in love. There must be something deep down that makes you stay. harness that power if it is something you truly want. If you decide differently then thats okay too. 

Yay! I firmly believe that every visualization, every gratitude statement that is giving thanks for him, every RS, everything that you do in order to be aligned with your amazing relationship he feels it.
I believe it is really powerful that you are saying that you don't want to lose yourself in your relationship. But for him to know that you cannot be there for him to walk all over or that you will accept his half assed love, comes from you my friend. Believe that about yourself and it will come into fruition in your relationship because we are taught that the people who are in our lives are mirrors and "mirror" each others behaviour. The only person that gets in your way is you--- that line just came across on a tv show that I was watching right now. Is that a sign or what?!

Howardgirl12 wrote:

When you see the same pattern in your SP.

That very act of seing that pattern is the reason why it shows up again and again.

When is it enough? Nobody can really decide that for you. But I can tell you one thing. Law of Attraction works fast, when you are aligned. So waiting for years and years for your manifestation means that you are doing something wrong. Wrong is a hard word, but I don't know how to put it better. So it's either time to drop your desire (you can't really do that) or you have to change your approach. If you decide to do the latter, you have to get to the point that you tell yourself "Okay, I have focused on What Is for a very long time now and I'm tired of it. I now dedicate myself to create my reality instead of observing what I have created with my past thoughts." See only your preference, regardless of the circumstances. They don't matter. I know it's hard and it needs practice, but you have to actually do it in the situations that are the hardest for you (if you see the opposite of what you want) to get better in it.

You are right. Everytime he comes back into my life. I put up a wall because he hurt me before. That's why I end up saying things like don't play games with me or I don't trust you. I want to let that wall down. I don't want to continue to manifest the old version of us but a better us. How I create that reality.

For me, enough is enough when I'm not alive.

What I do is, I say to myself that if I don't get this specific person, I will get someone similar to that person, even though I have 100% faith and believe that I  will be together with my specific person and to be honest we already are.

That way I have nothing to lose, because I either get "this" or someome "similar".

So my advice would be, that you don't give up.

Regardless of how many years it takes...

But I would say you change your intention to the example I gave.

That way, there is nothing to lose or worry about.