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But how I have change the way I react? Ihad to tell him its good that he dont watn what I want, its good all bad things he tell me?do you think that I must change feelings about this situation?
Maybe I wiil not try attract his back when he said these things..I dont will know forgive him. When we meet first tíme he gossip every his exes and said what I am different .and now he gossip me too? Sad....He dont have a reason.I have reason gossip him...this is.third boy who dissapointed me..In the past he was so good and cute.. yes I know that I attract all these bad things but I havent power change my beliefs about boys...I wanted to he was my last boy I don't want meet others boys Im tired...AND Im tired that I attracted always only his call or text and sometimes a good words from him but now he is bad again..I havent power to attract a relationship maybe. .maybe If he will sometimes in future want a relationship so I will afraid that later he hurt me again..I want back his good lovely version but I don't know shift to the reality when he want be with me forever...maybe I should forgot about him and I focus only myself and he will back but for me its hard...I want be happy with him but I don't know how I forgive him his these bad words...he was first boy which really interested me after my ex. I loved my ex so long time a lot years and he said that he dont want a relationship too and he had relationship..he said me how amazing and important person Im for him and how very believe me so why he werent with me? And now I get to know this current ex and he was great and now he is similar how my ex and this is similar situation.because I suffer again...I have maybe very wrong vibrations which don't know to keep a relationship...
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I think that you must stay focused on what you want at all times. Yes, these words are not what you wanted to hear, but you don't have to give them importance. Just because he said these things, it does not mean that you cannot create what you want with him. Your reality is completely dependent on you. He cannot create in your reality. This may be a manifestation of your past thoughts, or of your current doubts and fears. Whatever it is, it IS coming from YOU. So stop giving the things you don't want importance and stay in alignment with what you do want.
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I know this all because all people here give me always these councils but I don't know delete fear and doubts..they are some inside me and I don't know delete forever...and similar situation has becane in the summer he said similar things but I still believe but I was afraid too but he texted me again.but he didn lt say that he want a relationship.and now I know that I can attract text again but when I attract a relationship.Right now I dissapointed ,sad but at the same I calm when I know that I can change this.but how long I will attract just message .what If this don't mirrors me? What If he dont want a relationship because he have bad experience too and how he say he is young and he want be a free..how he attract me and my behavior in his life? When we are all a mirrors?
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Don't worry about what he is saying. He can only reflect you in your reality. It doesn't matter what he wants or doesn't want, you can still create the relationship you want with him in your reality. All of this is likely a manifestation of you not trusting your ability to create what you want. There is no reason to doubt or fear. Your ability to desire something is your ability to manifest that desire. If you can't just believe and accept that then figure out where you are struggling with doubts and study up on the LOA. You will find that you are a powerful creator with no limitations.
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But how I accept he say Im *****?? This nobody never say and he dont have a reason and he think that he say sorry and all is ok?I don't udnerstand how I create he say this ugly word...
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There is no set way that your doubts, fears, etc will manifest. They can manifest in a multitude of ways. Him calling you that word shows that he is being resistant to you. And that could have manifested in a different way. But, as I said, the resistance he is showing is coming from you. So, don't worry about what he said. Look at the bigger picture of him being resistant to you. And again, look inside yourself and figure out why you won't allow yourself to create the relationship you want with him. Because that's really the issue here. You are not allowing yourself to trust in your own abilities to create this good relationship with him. That's all there is to it.
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But he call all his exes and gossip their. so maybe is some mistake in him. Or not? Do you really believe that all our reality and behavior people to us create only we? Do not exist any behavior which we dont know to affect? when how I wrote he had a bad childhood etc
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And what he see in his reality?? In my reality its bad with him but its only my reality ,but in his reality he live maybe different life and with me right now? Its really scifi
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We don't ever control other individuals, but we only draw to us the versions of other individuals that will accurately reflect us. So, yes. All of his current behavior towards you is a reflection of what's going on inside you. There is a reality where you are already with him in a good relationship. If there wasn't, you would not be able to desire that. But you are where you are currently because you don't trust that you can experience that reality. And all of your doubts and fears are showing up in his behavior. You are sending out a signal to the universe that says "I want this, but I don't fully believe I can have it". So the universe is granting you that and sending you situations that make you feel like you can't have this relationship.
And yes, in his reality, he might be with you. You can't experience another person's reality, only yours. Or his reality might look the same as yours. We are limitless so it doesn't matter what another individual is creating, we can always create what we want to experience.
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Sunny's advice is as good as always. 
The main problem I see with you, Laura, and it's the same for many other people as well is that you don't really understand LoA and you haven't embodied it yet. Understanding the theory is nice, but feeling the truth of it in every moment is a completely different thing. For me personally, it took a year until I had learned to really think in LoA terms and I'm still not able to apply my own advice in every case. It takes practice and it doesn't really help in the long run, if we tell you the same things over and over again. I can tell you that Sunny is right and that he reflected your vibration with his behaviour, but that doesn't change the way you feel about it and that doesn't help so much to make it believable for you. You are stuck between two worlds right now. In your dominant world, he is a person that is completely independent of you. That's your old world view and that's what you still believe. To be honest, I still don't really know how to change beliefs. In any case, you have to be determined. You have to want it badly and not to get the guy, but to improve your own life. You have to be aware of your thoughts and stop, when you catch yourself thinking thoughts that don't serve you.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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