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Hey
I've been practice LOA since may of this year. My guy contacted me three weeks ago after 5 months of NC. Everything seems to be going good however, everytime I feel like he is playing me I start to overthink. He told me Friday that I just can't live in the moment and see where things will take us. But I don't trust him in the past as soon as I let my guard down I end up hurt. So if I see similar patterns from the past I call him out on it. That's when I go into thinking mood. This man has put me though so much BS I have no choice but to look out for myself. I wanted this time around to be different but I feel like he sees that as another opportunity to play me. Any advice please
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I think you have things to heal first.Β
You're saying this man put you through so much BS. That you always get hurt when you let your guard down.Β
This is not the speech of someone who's at peace with the past or filled with positivity. I think you should do a little introspect. Do you really want him? Do you really want to be with him if you were hurt?
If yes then forgive. Forget about the past. Start on a new base. You should feel only love and positivity toward your desire.Β
Last edited by Justine (10/30/2016 8:28 pm)
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Thank you for your advice. You are right I do need to forgive however, it seems like every time I try he disappoint me again. When this happens I distant myself from him. I love this man and he knows that. I just wished nothing changed and it was like it was years ago. It's so much I want now as far as a relationship and kids a future. I starting to feel like I'm not going to get it from him and it's finally time to walk away. To allow God to bless me with another.
Last edited by Howardgirl12 (10/30/2016 9:16 pm)
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It takes some time to forgive, this isn't the same situation because I decided I didn't want this ex in particular back but he cheated on me, the rage absolutely consumed me and brought me nothing but pain. I took some time away from social media, cut all contact with him and we're now friends. If you feel as if you're done with him, walk away. If you want to be with him and it's doubt talking take some time for you and get into the frame of mind you can forgive him. I started keeping a daily journal, much like a diary where I write down what I did during the day and include him in it. That's helped me.Β
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Thank you I have a journal. I stopped writing in it months ago. Tomorrow I will start back.
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It's a good practice, I have so many journals for different things, I have a gratitude journal which I'll admit I've neglected and needs to be updated, the one I mentioned for writing my day, one for scripting present tense stuff if I need a boost and one for writing down my goals to aid my visualisation sessions. I'm a little obsessive and compulsive though but it helps me align.