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10/16/2016 8:37 pm  #1


Advice please!!!

ugh. i need to take my own advice sometimes. i am super frustrated right now! i know i can do this and without a doubt i know that i can get my love back into my life in the way i want. the only problem is he is still messaging me to try to argue! I am trying to turn this into a positive! He has not blocked me! He is trying to find a way to not let go. the arguing means he is upset and trying to hang on. but it is throwing off my vibration!! part of me wants to block him but the other part is just trying to see this as a good sign and ignore all of the bad stuff. he is angry he still cares. most people have trouble getting that out of someone. ugh please stop fighting and be nice now


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10/16/2016 8:51 pm  #2


Re: Advice please!!!

Anger often hides another emotion that isn't controlled. It can be sadness or fear for example. You pointed the problem yourself: he is putting negative energy into your life at the moment by arguing.
Don't let anyone or anything influence you in a bad way!! You've worked so hard to keep your vibration high!
Try to cut the conversation for tonight. Go take a long bath and visualize what you want. What if your entire conversation wouldve happened without anger ? You don't want this negative energy. Then zipppp. Make it go away.

You already know you'll have what you want anyway the ride should be pleasant for you. Not full of anger or stress. You dont deserve that.  (love)

 

10/16/2016 9:03 pm  #3


Re: Advice please!!!

you are so right! I am going to imagine the conversation went the other way with him begging me to give him another chance!!! you are so awesome! Thanks for the boost! I absolutely love this forum!!!!


"You can be, do, and have whatever you want. You are the creator of your reality."
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10/16/2016 10:36 pm  #4


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It is always easier to give other people advice than to follow our owns. That's why we're all here !!

Let me know tomorrow how you're feeling!

 

10/17/2016 4:50 am  #5


Re: Advice please!!!

I don't know how long it has been since the breakup, but when he is still arguing I guess not that long. You say parts of you want to block him. Which parts? What is holding you back? Sounds to me like you are afraid that you can't get him back after you have blocked him. I think it would be beneficial to work through the thoughts and emotions behind it and find out what feels better to you: blocking him or not. A period of no contact can be very beneficial. It reminds me of my situation a little. I have lived with my ex and when he broke up my feeling told me to get out of our apartment as quickly as I can. But my "reasonable" mind told me to stay, because I thought this way he couldn't forget about me and I don't have to move in with him again when we are back together and blabla. It helped me in a sense though. I got over him very quickly and now I hate him and have absolutely no respect left for him. ;D But I could imagine that we would be together right now, if I had taken that step and move out. Don't get me wrong. I'm very glad that we aren't, but maybe the version of me who moved out would see that differently. So don't let fear be your guide.


"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."

Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
 

10/17/2016 5:31 am  #6


Re: Advice please!!!

Thank you so much for your response. We have not been broken up long. He came back after only about four days only to be gone again. You are so right. I need to trust myself. Normally i am way more upbeat and positive I guess his negative energy is rubbing off on me. I stopped responding to him last night so eventually he gave up. We spent all weekend arguing about the break up and everything to do with it. I see how badly it has now affected my vibration and I have had some horrible things happen because of it. My daughter drew on every wall in my living room when she is 6 and she knows better! And my daughter's father and I got into a huge argument! So from the moment i am done typing this I am hitting the reset button! No more feeling badly! No more feeling sorry for myself! Only good things to come my way today. Thank you so much you guys are really awesome!


"You can be, do, and have whatever you want. You are the creator of your reality."
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10/17/2016 6:51 am  #7


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I'm just part of the Peanut Gallery and what I think isn't nearly as important than what you feel about all of this, but I think a period of no contact could be benefical. It needs time to change and it's much harder with the other person around. I think it took me nearly a year to REALLY change and I still fall back into old patterns, but I'm very aware of it when it happens.
And relating to the video you posted: He can't rub his negative energy off on you, because his negative energy is a reflection of you.


"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."

Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
 

10/17/2016 7:30 am  #8


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You are so right! I have started the no contact by not responding. Thank you so much for your kind words and support. I am used to being able to get him back so quickly this frustration felt like a set back when really it was my negative energy. I was expecting him to say exactly what he said.


"You can be, do, and have whatever you want. You are the creator of your reality."
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10/17/2016 9:23 am  #9


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You are welcome.

Frustration is telling you that your Inner Being sees the situation differently, because it is already living your desired reality. And isn't it interesting how we always get what we expect? We may say "I didn't expect that EXACT thing to happen", but it's always the vibration we expected. Shortly after I started to train my LoA skills a situation made me very angry and I thought about what caused it over and over again and that made me even angrier. The next day, my landlord stood in my apartment. Not in front of the door, IN it. It made me even angrier than the thing the day before, but at first, I didn't understand how that could happen. I never thought about my landlord standing in my apartment before. But it was the angry vibration I sent out and I got more reasons to be angry about. The moment I understood that I stopped to be angry immediately..lol.

Maybe you already know it, but this post by Cherished is really worth checking it out: http://veronicaloa.boardhost.com/viewtopic.php?id=1511&p=6


"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."

Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
 

10/17/2016 10:11 am  #10


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Wow! I need to save this!! This is truly amazing!! Cherished is right. I need a time out for me. I need to do this for me. Not because he called it but because i called it! I am going to be selfish for awhile. I will make all of this about me and appreciating every little thing i have right now.

Some advice for others that script and whatnot i read an article that was stating that writing is better than typing. It takes way more neurons in the brain to write a thought. Therefore more of your brain is focusing on the good things! I try not to write any negative feelings. Sometimes it happens but i am trying to change my focus even when I'm feeling down.


"You can be, do, and have whatever you want. You are the creator of your reality."
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