Hey, dem0019! Hope you're having an awesome day despite the circumstance you've just posted! ☺

Let me tell you something about your ex that may give proper enlightenment to you but then, you have the freedom to take it as a lesson or ignore it, whichever makes you feel good. ☺
Your ex doesn't love you enough just basing on what you've stated, thus, he really doesn't deserve you. Listen to your heart and your gut. We, ladies, are given pure and lovely intuition to guide us in our decisions to lead us to a better path. It's only up to us if we follow it or not. In your case, your heart clearly let's you know that things are not right between you and your ex and that you deserve a better treatment from a better man. So I suggest honoring your feelings, listening to your inner voice, and just move on. For God has already laid down the truth to you but rest assured, HE HAS ALREADY PREPARED AND CHOSEN A BETTER MAN FOR YOU! WHETHER IT'S STILL YOUR EX OR SOMEBODY ELSE, HE HAS ALREADY PREPARED AND CHOSEN THE MAN FOR YOU! ☺ YOU JUST NEED TO TRUST AND BELIEVE IN HIM AND HIS TIMING! BE REALLY EXCITED ABOUT THIS!! ☺

For your current boyfriend, I honestly think you're just in a relationship with him to fill the void and the lack inside you from your previous relationship with your ex. You were able to find love and refuge with him for the time being that you're alone and broken from your ex. Simply put, a rebound relationship. You guys fighting a lot clearly shows it and you admitting not being in to him or not being that in love with him is another sign too. Your current guy doesn't deserve that relationship and treatment and so do you. The best thing for you to do as of now is pray *if you believe in praying,* really reflect on yourself and your relationships and put yourself FIRST as of now. ☺

Remember, no man or no one can ever love you more than you love yourself. Practice self love first. Rediscover yourself. Self heal first and stop seeking validation, love and comfort from outside yourself and from anybody. Only you can do that for yourself and I promise you, after really taking time to heal, to figure things out on your own and also love being on your own, good things and GREATER THINGS, PEOPLE, CIRCUMSTANCES will come falling into place for you. ☺

I hope this gives you a better view of everything that's happenin in your situation now. But then again, you are free to ignore my thoughts or take these as lessons. 😍😘

Stay blessed and good luck to your future endeavors!! Much love and light to you. 😍😘


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dem0019 wrote:

Hi everyone its been a while since I posted on here... My ex said he wanted to get back together and then he never texted me back when we were talking a few days later. A few days after that he posted a picture with a girl. Since then, he's posted several more and I think they are dating. It honestly crushed me at first but I met another guy right around that time and things moved really quickly. Now he is my boyfriend and I do like him but I don't love him like I did my ex. Just this past week we've been getting into lots of arguments and it's making me seriously question the relationship. I've also been seeing my ex's name EVERYWHERE. Menus, pictures, on buildings, etc. I feel so stuck and so low right now. I don't know what to do. 

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Thank you both! I really appreciate your encouragement. We have been broken up for almost 6 months and I've been doing LOA for the majority of that time. I guess I just felt that maybe he wasn't the one since it's been so long. I guess I just have a slight fear that I am mentally hurting myself by being so stuck on the idea that he's coming back if he never does. A lot of times, I think what LCR520 said... he never chased me or contacted me first, so maybe he just doesn't love me enough. I just don't want to prolong healing or finding someone new/better if there is that person out there.  Havefaith91, how did you get past those doubts and attract something better?

That's really similar to what happened to me....one day he wanted to get back together, two weeks later I caught him out with a girl who then told me, or more, screamed at me, that they were a couple. 
OK so basically, the reality you are perceiving sucks. But there is another way to perceive it. You just have to know a few basic things. One- if he was meant for you right NOW he would be with you. Two- if you were meant for him right NOW you would be with him. Three- Right NOW both matters and doesn't matter...meaning, the events that are going on right now suck but they are basically in the past, because as they are happening, so they are ending, this too shall pass. How they matter is because they help form the future. Your relation to your present needs to change to create the future that you want. 
So you don't want to have this nastiness around you, you don't want to feel that you were misled and then abandoned for someone else. So instead, your new truth is, to have a great future relationship, you needed to spend this time exploring the world without him and he needs to have this time to explore the world without you. Let him explore, let yourself explore. Read articles about things people wish they had done before being in a serious relationship...things like, travelling solo, having a brief affair with someone who is not usually your type, educating yourself in something like languages, history, politics, cooking...You have this time to be a mystery to him, to change things you want to change about yourself, to do things you couldn't do when you were with him. He has this time to decide what kind of man and life he wants to be. So your both on your own paths right now, and the thing is, when you are really ok with the present and totally happy with the kind of person you are, you will show up in a different way and he will be attracted back. It may not happen quickly. but like Abraham says, if you decide to go to visit a city far away, you don't get upset on the journey that you're not there yet because you know you're going to be there eventually. 
You're scared about healing or not healing...I was too.,...but here's what I learned... by healing, you don't lose the love for that person, if it was genuine love. You get over it, you say 'ok, he's not here, I love him, he hurt me, but I forgive him, I'm never going to cry over him hurting me again because the past is OVER, I'm going to do everything I want that makes me smile and if that is going on a date with this new man, I will. If I start to lose the love for my ex, then so be it, but I will not stay in the misery of the crappy reality that I have in my head, I will just see it as positively as humanly possible'.
So what usually happens if you have this mindset is that you will still think of them, but you will also go out and enjoy life naturally and the thoughts you have of them, won't make you cry, they'll just be good memories and you will stop thinking of them the moment they start making you sad.

 

I think I've forgiven myself and him. I'm no longer hurt by it or angry. But I have a hard time keeping myself from missing him and sometimes it makes me sad because I can't seem to find another person I love as deeply as I loved him. Havefaith91, I haven't looked him up at all but he said he wanted us to stay friends (including social media) so sometimes pictures pop up with this girl. Should I just delete him regardless? It just feels so final and like I'm taking a step backwards. ShootingStar, I like your statement that if we were good for each other right now, we'd be together. We both need time to grow and be apart right now. Do you believe that if you want anything, it'll happen eventually and just may not be the right time? Is your ex still with the other girl right now?