Look, I will be very honest with you. I have had a lot of experience with relationships and exs and reuniting years later and everything....but here's the actual truth. 
He is not your soulmate. He is not your soulmate because no one can ever have that much importance in your life unless they are your partner of maybe 50 years or a friend of a very long time. You can also have more than one soulmate, like a best friend and a partner. A soulmate just really means someone who gets you and you get them. Someone who makes you feel relaxed, like you can say anything to and who you have a deep and easy connection with. People go overboard when they talk about soulmates in the romantic context because the rush of sexual desire makes people believe it's almost a magical bond they have with their partner, but if you're giving an old boyfriend the title of 'soulmate', you're just making him far more important than he needs to be. You may have had a great connection, but if he's not here and hasn't been around for a long time, you need to strip him of the title of 'soulmate' so that you can have any chance of attracting him into your reality.
The other thing is, with 8 years passed, the guy you dated really does not exist anymore. It's actually true, people change. People change subtly and sometimes slowly, but they change. Especially when you have not been around to experience them changing slowly like their family has, you will find them to be quite different to how they were. Sure, at first, they might sound the same, look very similar maybe, maybe they might have the same laugh, but they don't have the exact same mentality because they've gone through experiences that have shaped and changed them. 
I recently reconnected with an ex boyfriend I went out with about 6-7 years ago. We were very young when we were together, but when we met up again, he felt so familiar. He looked pretty much the same, sounded the same, talked the same, even had the very same tastes and interests. He appeared the same and I had a moment of feeling the same feelings I had for him all those years ago. However, he wasn't the same. He had had a serious girlfriend after me and she had jaded him. He wasn't as optimistic as he was, he lost that enthusiasm for things he had when I knew him before. Even though he seemed to be the same person I remembered, he was only that because I was projecting who I remembered onto him. I was thinking I knew him, I was making jokes about things we used to make jokes about. But after a couple of hours, it just stopped feeling right. I realised that there was a lot about him I now knew nothing about and the things that drew me to him were actually gone. 
You're currently in love with a memory, it's an illusion, but you're not in love with what he is in reality because you really don't know him anymore. You can still attract him into your reality, you can attract a meeting with him, but you can't expect to see the same person there as the one in your head. 

Last edited by ShootingStar (9/06/2016 7:45 pm)