ShootingStar wrote:

frannita... try responding in a way to his behaviour that will influence his behaviour. When we are inside 'the vortex' ,meaning, when we are confident, happy, feeling good, feeling secure about ourselves, we can affect other people's actions because they see happiness and confidence in us and they are attracted to that. So if you're guy is playing hot and cold, just respond in a balanced calm to positive way. Don't start worrying about what he's doing, just see it as he has his own stuff going on and try to just make each moment you are in contact or with him, as good as you can! Try and bring the happiness to the relationship right now, just relax and make things light and fun and enjoyable as much as you can! Don't get serious, don't start getting upset or start demanding things, those are actions from an insecure and out of the vortex place and will push him away. Don't even smother him all the time with texts or calls every day, let him come to you and also go to him, make it balanced and allow yourself to just take it easy,as if you were beginning again with someone new. Think of it like calling a cat to you, to call a cat you have to be patient and happy so that the cat will decide itself that it does want to go to you. It will edge close then maybe edge back, then close again and it might do this for a little while until it's sure it can trust you and you seem like a nice person to go to. Just stand still in your vibe and allow him to edge to you

thank you shootingstar, your answer is much appreciated and true✨