PrettyFlamingo wrote:

What about when you feel that you are not physically attractive enough at the moment to attract anyone into a relationship?  Like being overweight, for example?  Meaning that you can't get into clothes that you know you look good in.  How do you handle that whilst you embark on sensible eating plans and exercise to lose the weight so you still feel positive and good about yourself?  Because I guess if you feel unattractive, that vibe will be cast out into the world. 

Wolf is right. You have to feel better about your body first. In my experience, as long as you see yourself as fat and ugly, you will always be drawn to that piece of cake and always find an excuse to not do sports today. You will start tomorrow with losing weight - and that every day.
A few years ago, I gained weight and felt very uncomfortable in my body. I really couldn't stand looking in the mirror. I started to plan a diet, but I had to fight for it and in the end, I always lost and ate the chocolate or whatever. I even started eating more than necessary (and more than I had eaten before!) and gained weight! Now, it's logical for me that this happened. It was my vibration and my reality had to match my "fat and ugly" vibration, and because I wasn't even what one could call "fat", after my "diet" I weighed more than ever before. One day, I had enough and decided to give up for a while on the losing weight plan and accept my body as it was. And guess what? When I checked my weight a few months later, I had lost 4 kilogram without doing anything for it. What you resist persist.

And by the way. a guy told me just yesterday that he likes fat woman (it was on a dating site and I didn't want to make my weight public on my profile, so I wrote 200 kg, so that everybody would know that this isn't my real weight. I'm sure you weigh much less than 200kg and even with 200kg, you would find a guy who thinks that you are sexy (at least one in Berlin ;D).
I remember another story from a guy who had several girlfriends in his life, but one of them was special. She was the only one who didn't complain about her body, even though she was chubby and that made her special in his eyes. He liked her body, because she liked her body.
And a last story: When I started my journey, I really didn't enjoy looking into the mirror. While many guys complimented my pictures online, I didn't really like my face. But then, I started to work on my happiness (I was very negative before and being happy was a rare feeling) and boooy made it a difference. Within maybe 2 months, I looked differently. It wasn't that I started to wear make-up (I didn't and still don't) or do anything with my face. It were only the better thoughts that changed my face. I'm looking so much prettier now, I even catch me half smiling on the street and it also changes how people react to me of course.

The moral of the story is: It's not that people look at your body and see a clump of flash and bones that they rate. They primarily react to your vibration. I think a thick and happy woman is thousend times more attractive than an unhappy thin one.

And also important: If you want to lose weight, do it for you and not for anybody else. I could tell you another story here, but it's a little too private to put it on the forum. If you like to hear it, you can send me a PM.

If you're feeling unattractive, you're going to be unattractive haha. 

If you're feeling desirable, you're going to be desirable  

However....if you're very under or over weight but feeling desirable, you will just appear to be comfortable with the fact that you're unhealthy to others, which isn't attractive. You will still get attention from some people, but for the most part, people will still see you as being unhealthy and that will always put people off. There are some cultures where being big is quite normal, like in some African countries, however, bigness to a great extent is generally considered unhealthy. The goal is, you want to be and feel healthy. If you are healthy, then you should just allow yourself to feel desirable because you are healthy which is...desirable ! If you are just in the unhealthy range of weight or very close to it, then you should work on your health before you start thinking of attracting anyone in. It's almost paradoxical to be happy and unhealthy, like a happy heroin addict, they feel good to themselves but to the world, they show up as unhealthy and undesirable. Being healthy on the outside is an indicator to how you feel on the inside. Being a little chubby is fine and if you are only a little chubby but feeling undesirable, then you're showing to the world that you have some self loathing and insecurities going on inside your head which is not healthy and not attractive. Sure, you can work on getting slimmer if you feel like it! But if you are in a good healthy weight range, then own it! Be happy! Feel desirable! You are more than just your physical appearance you know! It works the other way round too, there are plenty of 'happy' anorexic people, but they are still unhealthy and the fact that they seem 'happy' about their weight, just shows to the world that they are happy to be unhealthy which is very unattractive.