Aisha wrote:

Since they both are thinking they wanna be together are the chances higher for them to end up in that same class or meeting or whatever?

You are still thinking in probabilities. There is nothing like that. You can only be more or less aligned with your desire. If you can manage to align with your desire, you get it. If not, you won't get it. It's always about you and only you, no one else.

Aisha wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

Aisha wrote:

Since they both are thinking they wanna be together are the chances higher for them to end up in that same class or meeting or whatever?

You are still thinking in probabilities. There is nothing like that. You can only be more or less aligned with your desire. If you can manage to align with your desire, you get it. If not, you won't get it. It's always about you and only you, no one else.

how would I know if I am aligned with my desires or not? And i don't get the thinking in probabilities part

You wrote that "the chances" are higher. That is what I mean with thinking in probabilities. You still think logical and take into account that it's possible that it won't happen. But with LoA, there is nothing like that. It's a sure thing, IF you are aligned with it.

You know it by paying attention to the way you feel. When you are joyful, when you appreciate something, when you love, you are aligned. If you are incredible happy because of something that hasn't happened yet, it has to come.
 

I personally don't really like the expression "acting as if", because it's really not about acting. It's about thinking and feeling. When a thought feels good, you move closer to your desire. In my experience, you don't even have to pretend that it's already there. When you give something your attention, you get more of it. And your feeling is telling you in every second, if your focus is on the thing you want or on the absence of it.

Aisha wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

I personally don't really like the expression "acting as if", because it's really not about acting. It's about thinking and feeling. When a thought feels good, you move closer to your desire. In my experience, you don't even have to pretend that it's already there. When you give something your attention, you get more of it. And your feeling is telling you in every second, if your focus is on the thing you want or on the absence of it.

That makes a lot more sense now that I think about it because I've read a lot of articles and forums and they say to act as if. But as you said if you bring your attention to something you get more of it. From what I've heard from other people as well is that if you focus too much on something doubts will arise and its better to let go. I'm fairly new to LoA so I'm trying to put the pieces together to see what works for me

It's not wrong to act as if, if it brings you joy or at least relief. I'm still learning myself and I'm not sure, if we even can reach a full understanding of LoA. I believe we will always understand things in new ways and learn by the application of it. But with my current understanding, I think in the end, it comes all down to caring about how you feel and shift to a better feeling after you have accepted where you are right now. Take what resonates with you, and ignore what doesn't. Sometimes, you read something that makes you feel bad and it's not what you need in that minute. But a few weeks or months later, the same information does resonate.
I think the fact that you focus on something too much already shows that you have doubt, else you wouldn't feel the need to concentrate on it so much. So I would say it is the other way around. It's not that too much focusing brings doubt, but your focus reveals your doubts.

I would put the question a little differently. What makes them want to stay or not to stay? Why do you like some people and don't like others, even if you don't have much to do with them and they have never been rude to you? I think that our feelings towards others are a result of us reading their vibration. Everyone is attracted to happy people. Why? Simple, because they are happy and therefore in a high vibration. Nobody is attracted to depressed people. So, we receive the vibration of others on an unconscious level and our thoughts and feelings towards them match their vibration. If you want someone in your life and you have a pure vibration about it, this someone will also develop the desire to be in your life.
Another approach to this is that you wouldn't have the desire, if that desire wouldn't exist somewhere in the person as well. But it doesn't really matter which one is true. The essence of both approaches is to align with what you want.