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Last contact
What should you do if your last contact was a semi mean email where you outlined his wrongs, said you are seeing someone, and blocked him?
I unblocked him. He will not reach out, pride and the fact I did block him... Can I write A simple sorry, taking some time to myself, talk to you soon? Or nothing? I am doing the challenge and just feel so bad I didn't just stop contact, turn my attention away... without chastising him, saying I am seeing someone and blocking...yes I learned, and feel ok, but should I just send a simple apology?
- TheChemist
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Re: Last contact
How long has it been since you've unblocked him? It will take time for those hurt feelings to dissipate, whatever you choose to do, and it's completely up to your dynamic and attitudes how long that takes.
- Sallythatgirl
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4 days since I unblocked him... Not too worried/ preoccupied with whether he contacts, but the 'I am seeing someone, ' wasn't really true... I am moving on but feel that wasn't truthful or nice to him... I may see many someone's in the future though. This is the issue, that I put out to him and the universe there's a specific someone else. Thanks for helping!
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Thread Starter- Sallythatgirl
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Thanks Wolf. That's interesting. How do I. Feel, how would an apology feel? I am really in his feelings I realize... I don't need to apologize for me because it is in the past and I can't change my actions... But in his reality the statement exists and still is present and to me that feels hurting and that I hurt him... I know I am not responsible for his feelings but a simple hey, decided to just focus on myself, have A ton of exciting stuff going on these days!talk to you soon..... Might feel better...to me... Then just saying what's done is done and I can fix it by moving forward...I am moving forward either way;-)
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Thread Starter- Sallythatgirl
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I love this Wolf. I get it, really appreciate your personal story. I am not at the point on my journey where the apology would be from a thank you position...yet, I'll just keep be awesome for awhile and maybe it will transpire. As of now, if I am honest guilt comes up, I own it and turn my attention away from it but if I am honest I feel bad...but it is in my head...he could be happy as a clam for all I know, and that feels better to feel...thanks so much!
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