Well honestly at this point I think he's being rude and testing you to see how you react to being treated like this. I don't think you should get angry at him, but I do think you should just hold your position for an appropriate amount of time and then reach out to him and see if he responds. Basically just give him a minute

wolf wrote:

Rainbows wrote:

do I calmly let him know that he can't just be in & out of my life? Or do I just continue like none of this ever happened & just be normal? I don't want him to feel he can get away with disrespecting me.. as I feel what you allow is what will continue but then from a LOA perspective.. I technically may not need to say anything to him?

Again you have guidance telling you whether it is a good idea to tell him that or not.
If it feels like yes yes yes, do it.
If it doesn't, well it's not going to change a thing.

The fact is that you can't ask him to change without lining up with that yourself first,
and then get a response that you'd like.
To me this sounds more like an action journey than anything right now,
you don't like the circumstances so you are trying to change it by banging it into place with your action
but you know that this never ever works from a place of misalignment.

He can't even disrespect you when you are in alignment
because you feel like such a positive light to him that he would never ever want to disrespect you.

You know that if you'd like different circumstances,
you have to first feel that they are already there,
so you have to feel that you are respected by him NOW.
If you feel that you are respected because you respect yourself,
others can't do something different.
He can't offer you a different response until you have begun to feel that response before it has even happened.
Your verbal words will not do much if they come from a place of Not Having what you want.
 

Thank you for your response
I definitely haven't took any action.. this is why I was asking.. do I or don't I? Haha but nope haven't took any action I strongly believe we'll be together.. I was simply confused at his switch up as I mention in my original post.. so that's what I meant when I say i felt disrespected & I wondered if WHEN he contacted me I should voice this to him but You've showed me that I just need to forgive him for that & I have been working on letting go of that & im over it now so thank you!!!!. Now when he contacts me again I don't need to say anything - we can just have a happy conversation & YES I will focus MORE on just exactly what I want from him.. I appreciate you!!! You made me really let go of the frustration I was holding towards him for the last week or so.. but before that I had  been living like I had him.. hence the results I was getting.. lol & now all the frustration has gone I'm back to living that way again.. I'm loving it.. YAYYY!

Rainbows wrote:

So I have another question for you beautiful people who are constantly supporting meeeee.. WHEN he contacts me again.. do I calmly let him know that he can't just be in & out of my life? Or do I just continue like none of this ever happened & just be normal? I don't want him to feel he can get away with disrespecting me.. as I feel what you allow is what will continue but then from a LOA perspective.. I technically may not need to say anything to him? Hahahahaha I don't knoooow.. please send me all your honest suggestions

Good question, and I am of the school of thought that, LOA included, we have to be honest and let people know where they stand.  If it were me, I would do what I have highlighted here, which you have already thought of.  I think anything else "just be normal" IS being honest and realistic.  I wouldn't allow anyone to do that to me, and you don't deserve it.  If not, he will think bobbing in and out IS normal, and not saying anything would normalise it.  If you get what I mean.