Sounds like a great mindset to me. If he don't talk to you it's his loss. You are too good to wait for someone for such a long time. So I think moving on is a good idea and with this mindset, you won't have any fear or doubt. I'm sure it will happen.

ShootingStar wrote:

So the a-ha moment came tonight when I read some of Sanshi's posts and listened to an Abraham video and it dawned on me....to get your desire, you have to get into alignment BUT you also must be focused on your desire.

I have to disagree on that. Abraham always says that you can get extremely happy about anything and all your desires flow to you. I think focusing on something is just one more tool to get your vibration up. Especially attracting a specific person is hard, because you have so much doubts. When you start to focus on the wanted end of the stick, you notice it when your thoughts go back into old negative patterns and you can readjust them. Besides, most people want to do something. So it's better for them to focus on what they want than to just get happy. But I think, focus isn't even necessary, because you already put everything you desire into your vortex. By being happy alone you kinda focus on it so to speak, because that would be the feeling that you had, if your desire would already be realised.

Sanshi wrote:

Sounds like a great mindset to me. If he don't talk to you it's his loss. You are too good to wait for someone for such a long time. So I think moving on is a good idea and with this mindset, you won't have any fear or doubt. I'm sure it will happen.

ShootingStar wrote:

So the a-ha moment came tonight when I read some of Sanshi's posts and listened to an Abraham video and it dawned on me....to get your desire, you have to get into alignment BUT you also must be focused on your desire.

I have to disagree on that. Abraham always says that you can get extremely happy about anything and all your desires flow to you. I think focusing on something is just one more tool to get your vibration up. Especially attracting a specific person is hard, because you have so much doubts. When you start to focus on the wanted end of the stick, you notice it when your thoughts go back into old negative patterns and you can readjust them. Besides, most people want to do something. So it's better for them to focus on what they want than to just get happy. But I think, focus isn't even necessary, because you already put everything you desire into your vortex. By being happy alone you kinda focus on it so to speak, because that would be the feeling that you had, if your desire would already be realised.

Where I feel I'm going 'wrong' in regards to this specific situation with this person is that as I got happy, I did the natural human thing and started really healing up my wounds which cut that tie I had to him and our relationship. Just as you say you have sort of stopped caring about your specific person coming back or not. When I first came onto this forum and read stories of people saying that they think they've got success but then said somewhere in it 'but I haven't heard from my person yet but I don't care because I feel great!' I actually just felt disappointed. In my head I was thinking that due the main subject of this forum, a success story should just always include getting back with their person otherwise it wouldn't be a success. Now I think I've realised that what happened with those people is that they felt compelled to write because of their FEELING and the feeling was that they had actually moved on from their break up and the hurt that went with it and they were in that steady place of freedom and happiness that comes after a long time of being depressed and in pain and slowly getting better and then one day realising how good you feel compared to how you used to feel a few months before and that IS success. But not the success of the original goal. They might have been aiming for the silver medal and gotten the gold one, but still, the silver medal was the goal...(who wants silver when you get gold, but still, it should be fair that the silver medal should be achievable)

I believe the missing part is that as we naturally heal and grow within ourselves after a break up and as time passes without seeing our person in a while, we actually start to naturally look at other things that we want that surround us. If I stayed locked in my room for a year, I would still be 100% focused on my person, but as I was out in the world and living life, I have new things I want to achieve and people too. I have had feelings for people since my break up and I have been romantically involved with other people since my break up. This is obviously a good thing for me as a person! However, now I'm going to see what really focusing on my original desire while feeling steadily good will bring me. The desire was put there, yes, but I haven't properly thought of it with positive expectation and without fear or doubt before. I just haven't thought of it lately at all. Once or twice maybe, but I've gone a long time without thinking of him. Sometimes I have thought of him while in conversation with someone else and I bring him up, but in a very distant and unemotional way. I've talked about him in past terms as well, only in memories as if he's dead. He's not alive in my vibration right now, but I've decided to bring him back from the dead and start thinking of him again with emotion. 

Like Abraham said...if you're thinking about it that it's your obsession and it's causing you anxiety, then you're thinking about it too much, if you're not thinking about it and forget what it feels like to think about it, then you're not thinking about it enough (paraphrased)