whosurdaddy wrote:

Ok so bare with my guys,

Back in April my ex texted me after a month of no contact after our nasty breakup saying "he couldn't stop thinking about what happened between us and that he is sorry but he doesn't believe that he hurt me" I responded to it but I kind of brushed him off. The next day I find him on tinder (we met on tinder but unmatched each other in October cause we got in a fight when we were together, so this is my second time seeing him on there) So anyways I find him on tinder the day after he contacts me and we do not match.

Now fast forward to today, we're at 3 months of no contact now. I am doing great with my vibe, I am constantly going out with my friends, I am focusing on me, I am making money at work, and I even started to be intimate with someone again...... I am on tinder this morning and i find my ex again. Like wtf!!! I live in a big ass city why do i keep seeing him coming up on my tinder (we didn't match) but still It's just annoying cause I am doing great not thinking about him and he comes up on my tinder for the third goddamn time. It's not normal to keep seeing the same person come up on tinder when you live in a big city and have thousands of other people to match with. But anyways I still truly believe he will come back to me and say everything I ever wanted him to say. I can just "feel", but honestly I could care less. I know my worth and I know I'm the prize here. I'm just annoyed to keep being reminded of him when I am doing great and not thinking about him. I also have many dreams in which he comes back to me pretty often. 

I would delete tinder.

whosurdaddy wrote:

Jim Chien Beige wrote:

whosurdaddy wrote:

Ok so bare with my guys,

Back in April my ex texted me after a month of no contact after our nasty breakup saying "he couldn't stop thinking about what happened between us and that he is sorry but he doesn't believe that he hurt me" I responded to it but I kind of brushed him off. The next day I find him on tinder (we met on tinder but unmatched each other in October cause we got in a fight when we were together, so this is my second time seeing him on there) So anyways I find him on tinder the day after he contacts me and we do not match.

Now fast forward to today, we're at 3 months of no contact now. I am doing great with my vibe, I am constantly going out with my friends, I am focusing on me, I am making money at work, and I even started to be intimate with someone again...... I am on tinder this morning and i find my ex again. Like wtf!!! I live in a big ass city why do i keep seeing him coming up on my tinder (we didn't match) but still It's just annoying cause I am doing great not thinking about him and he comes up on my tinder for the third goddamn time. It's not normal to keep seeing the same person come up on tinder when you live in a big city and have thousands of other people to match with. But anyways I still truly believe he will come back to me and say everything I ever wanted him to say. I can just "feel", but honestly I could care less. I know my worth and I know I'm the prize here. I'm just annoyed to keep being reminded of him when I am doing great and not thinking about him. I also have many dreams in which he comes back to me pretty often. 

I would delete tinder.

I'm not going to delete tinder because of him, I'm on it to hook up with guys I just don't know why I keep seeing him on there it's really strange. 

 
And he is there to hook up on girls. He is seeing you and you are seeing him.
Do you want him back or not? Cause he is probably thinking that you have moved on...

whosurdaddy wrote:

Jim Chien Beige wrote:

whosurdaddy wrote:

I'm not going to delete tinder because of him, I'm on it to hook up with guys I just don't know why I keep seeing him on there it's really strange. 

 
And he is there to hook up on girls. He is seeing you and you are seeing him.
Do you want him back or not? Cause he is probably thinking that you have moved on...

I don't care if he comes back or not and he should think that because I have moved on, but I do believe he will be back, I can feel it. Every ex I've ever had before has come back to me
 

Ok then. He's probably wondering the same thing as you. Why do I keep seeing her?

So you're jealous? If you're over him, you wouldn't even bat an eye that he's on there. He's trying to move on like you. If you're using LOA to bring him back, focusing on him being on the site to hook up with other girls isn't the way to go. You care creating resistance which will only push the desire away further, if a relationship with him is said desire. 

Jim Chien Beige wrote:

whosurdaddy wrote:

Sam wrote:

I don't have tinder but is there a option to block someone? Only asking because you said it's annoys you to see him.

But it's not strange at all that he keeps showing up. It's the LOA. You probably developed the expectation that you'll see him on there and so you do.

I do have a question though, if you are confident he will come back, and you feel positive about your relationship, why does it annoy you to see him? I'd be delighted!

I think you can only block someone if you're matched with them and we're not matched. and it annoys me because I feel great and I think I'm over him but then I see him on a hooking up app and it's like a slap in the face saying "look it's me your ex, here to hook up with girls on this app" just like I'm there to hook up with guys ya know?
 

You told me that you are on tinder to hook up with guys.
He is as free as you. I don't understand why do you care if you are over him.

That's not the point the point is I keep seeing him and I don't know why. It's like horse **** on your shoe that never goes away no matter how many times you scrape it off