There is no false fact. What you believe becomes a fact.
By thinking it over and over again.

NealBlanc wrote:

 I want to believe that my ex has started loving me. Although we have been on a no contact for last 4 months. I also know that there is another guy present in this scenario but i want to ignore this and want to Believe and Know consciously as well as subconsciously that She Loves Me no matter what the reality shows.

Should i use affirmation or visualization ?

When you use affirmations and feel bad while doing it, it's counterproductive. You create that what you feel and not what you affirm. Understand that it's already there. If you can get to that point of really understanding its present, it gets easier.
 

You put the thought into the subconscious mind by repetition, repeat the thought over and over and you'll start to believe it. Just like in school, you probably haven't seen two atoms of hydrogen and one atom of oxygen bond together and become water with your own eyes, but you believe it because the fact has been repeated again and again through study. So repetition of a thought becomes a belief. And when you hold a thought in your mind, you'll begin to find similar thoughts and that snowballs into a belief system or story in your mind.

Should you use affirmation and visualization? The choice is yours, do what feels right for you. I can't visualize in the morning so I usually do affirmations. I prefer to visualize in the evening. Sometimes when I visualize I affirm as well. It's not the technique that matters - it's the state of mind and feeling you get out of it. I think it's better to do both when you're in a relaxed state of mind or in a positive mood overall, like right after meditation.

Affirmations do work but it can take forever depending on how believable it is for you or how much resistance you have. I hope these might help you:

1. Superseding beliefs - Sometimes the affirmation that we use is just not believable and doesn't feel good, so we either feel like crap or get incredibly bored while thinking it. So go general with the thought, find a more general belief that includes the specific belief and makes it easier for you to believe in what you desire. For example, if I go specific and affirm "We are soulmates and she loves me and wants to be with me," it may sound good on paper but my mind may have so much resistance to it so it's very difficult to believe it. But if I go general and affirm "I have the most amazing relationship now," it might feel better and be more believable to you or easier to believe. Going general doesn't mean you won't get what you want, it just makes it easier for you to focus and isn't the most amazing relationship really what you want anyway? Also, it's better to make beliefs about yourself rather than people outside of you because focusing outward can make you feel crappy sometimes. "I have the most amazing relationship now," is an example of focusing inward; "She loves me and wants to be with me," is an example of focusing outward. Which belief do you think is more beneficial overall for your life?

1. Focus Blocks - Emotions helps a lot with building beliefs. You may notice from your own life how negative beliefs were thoughts repeated over time from a place of fear. Positive beliefs were thoughts repeated from a place of love and confidence. Think of feelings like the glue that hold the thoughts together and build a belief system. Finding better-feeling thoughts is like adding glue to build up your positive beliefs. We tend to remember something more, especially subconsciously, if it was hued with an intense feeling. Working with focus blocks can help you find better-feeling thoughts and with positive emotions glued to your thoughts of having the love you desire now, it becomes extra fun to think about it and let the story of having great love build up in a joyful way. Read this to see how to work with focus blocks: http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/5901/manifesting-experiment-2-the-focus-blocks-method-manifest-what-you-want-by-deliberately-feeling-better-about-it

Also, if you're still in pain after all this time, I really recommend that you heal yourself first before trying to have a relationship again.