Blerdy. wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

Blerdy. wrote:

Is it really that simple ?

Yes, it's that simple. But it's not an easy thing to do, if you have practiced something else for decades.

Is it normal to not think about it for a while even though I want a relationship with him ?

Who said that you shouldn't think about it? It depends. If you think about him and you feel the lack of it and therefore feel bad, it can be beneficial to go off the subject for a while. But you don't need to do that, if you only feel joy while thinking about him and you two together.
 

Blerdy. wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

Blerdy. wrote:

Is it normal to not think about it for a while even though I want a relationship with him ?

Who said that you shouldn't think about it? It depends. If you think about him and you feel the lack of it and therefore feel bad, it can be beneficial to go off the subject for a while. But you don't need to do that, if you only feel joy while thinking about him and you two together.
 

Gotcha. Because sometimes I'll think of him and I'll start getting anxious and when that happens I'll quickly find something to distract myself with.

Yes, that's the way to go. When it feels good to think about him, do it, milk the good feelings, think about all the exciting things you will do with him, think about what you like about him, think about how he will treat you and so on. And the moment you get anxious, go general (what do you like about being in a relationship or something like this) or think about cats, sea horses or bees.

Blerdy. wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

Blerdy. wrote:

Gotcha. Because sometimes I'll think of him and I'll start getting anxious and when that happens I'll quickly find something to distract myself with.

Yes, that's the way to go. When it feels good to think about him, do it, milk the good feelings, think about all the exciting things you will do with him, think about what you like about him, think about how he will treat you and so on. And the moment you get anxious, go general (what do you like about being in a relationship or something like this) or think about cats, sea horses or bees.

One last question, should I stop looking at his social media? I promise I'm not being stalkerish, I just go to his tumblr every once in a while.

People say to not look at social media, because it can bring your vibe down, because it reminds you of "what is". If your vibration is stable, you can do it, if you feel like it's holding you back somehow, don't do it.
 

Blerdy. wrote:

It seems like my crush has trust issues, is that something that will be resolved with time or ? Because I don't want him to have thoseverything same issues when we're finally together.

If you don't want it, don't focus on it. You get to experience the parts of the person you give your attention to. If you can manage to focus on the good things about him, you won't have any problems with this.