I understand that people care about free will to some extend, but do you think he consciously decides that he doesn't text back, just because? Or doesn't he feel like texting back. Sure, he creates his experience, but he creates in yours as well and he couldn't do that, if your vibe wouldn't allow it.

That's why I am here. Today isn't a good one at all it feels horrible. I cannot describe it but it feels like something is wrong.

Just trying to get help and back in the mood of feeling better.

Texting is a horrible way of real communication anyway!

If thinking about him right now doesn't feel good - think of something else. Trying to figure him out when you're already feeling some kind of way is on,y going to give you more of what you don't want. Step away, focus on something else and when you're back in a better place think about it again and see if it still makes you feel wonky.

There is one main question though : we choose who and what experiences we want. Sometimes we change our mind. I have noticed many times in your posts, it comes through as if you feel like he's not good enough for you or he doesn't tick all the boxes of the ideal relationship already in your vortex. And that's okay, but then what will happen is as you're being wishy washy your results are wishy washy.

All you have to do is focus on the best version of your relationship - not him specifically because you'll just manifest more of him being his best version maybe but not with you particularly  - focus on how you are together, give the relationship a life of its own and stop looking at details or what is - which is really manifestations of your past focus ( which you keep feeding when you focus on it )

What will happen is that you will call forth the relationship  ( not just the man ) with him or with whoever is in perfect alignment with it - being open to the fact that you may have outgrown your original desire and it may come in a different package is the mother of all road block removal to manifesting because what you're saying is : I'm no longer holding too tight because I'm scared it might not happen, I trust the process blindly and fully.

In the meantime we will trust it for you .

Ps : when I feel some kind of way : I take a nap. Esther was so spot on with that advice. Sometimes all you need is a reset.

Last edited by Inloveandsohappytogether (7/18/2016 12:05 pm)

SydneysMommy wrote:

Inloveandsohappytogether wrote:

If thinking about him right now doesn't feel good - think of something else. Trying to figure him out when you're already feeling some kind of way is on,y going to give you more of what you don't want. Step away, focus on something else and when you're back in a better place think about it again and see if it still makes you feel wonky.

There is one main question though : we choose who and what experiences we want. Sometimes we change our mind. I have noticed many times in your posts, it comes through as if you feel like he's not good enough for you or he doesn't tick all the boxes of the ideal relationship already in your vortex. And that's okay, but then what will happen is as you're being wishy washy your results are wishy washy.

All you have to do is focus on the best version of your relationship - not him specifically because you'll just manifest more of him being his best version maybe but not with you particularly  - focus on how you are together, give the relationship a life of its own and stop looking at details or what is - which is really manifestations of your past focus ( which you keep feeding when you focus on it )

What will happen is that you will call forth the relationship  ( not just the man ) with him or with whoever is in perfect alignment with it - being open to the fact that you may have outgrown your original desire and it may come in a different package is the mother of all road block removal to manifesting because what you're saying is : I'm no longer holding too tight because I'm scared it might not happen, I trust the process blindly and fully.

In the meantime we will trust it for you .

Ps : when I feel some kind of way : I take a nap. Esther was so spot on with that advice. Sometimes all you need is a reset.

I think this was the best post to read before bed.

I do keep monitoring it now because I didn't before. I can openly admit I enjoyed being successful and all about me! In the process however there were times I didn't pay much attention to him. By the time I did, I was feeling resentful and drained. Either way, being dumped after so much effort and still hearing some one not giving you a chance is making my considering our future wishy washy. It feels so good to admit this right now but in so many ways whether the past or not, I felt a bit empty always giving to fill his void from the stress with his ex. Now they are going to court again, he is even more withdrawn and moody and it makes loa really hard to see if right now it is worth it.


I truly value the wording you used because it gave me the ok to consider the fact that right now isn't the time.

You mentioned that we should let it go and allow it to evolve. I don't know if I completely know what that even means while trying to figure out if what I want is more compromise on my part.


There's something special about knowing yourself and learning yourself and I'm coming to realize this is a new person I never experienced .


Our break up was life changing. Once fearless and dynamic now second guessing and don't have the upper hand. The communication may seem negative but I don't feel this way..he DOESN'T feel good to think about right now and I'm do glad you said that versus change you perception.

I think I'll try later on but right now at this very Moment the plan was to succeed at getting his attention again after 25 days. And I accomplished that after 2 months if bring blocked. But I'm standing in limbo because the core of me despises intentional pain and that's what's happening while we offer love and support. The balance isn't there and it's all because I'm not balanced in myself in regard to hilt if what I allowed.

I believe this journey is to a head for the moment and it was an educational one but if I am to marry and feel abundance, it can't be while being distracted by my thoughts and actions of how he is addressing his life upon me.

For what it is worth I do love him.. but the check marks for what I'm expecting arent checked for myself. I believe I need to forgive me big time! And if I am to trust it is done then I'm trusting it's without additional effort. You're right, I may have out grown it. And thank you for confirming that it's ok!!!

I'll revisit him and rekindling later on but as of know you literally assisted in helping me take a DEEP breath and acknowledge my me and my soul  as the current moment and be ok with the fact that right now he or I need each other right now.

Thank you so very much. I cannot begin to tell you that I too am no longer holding on too tight. I am too bold to have let go in the first place and been too worried about being forgotten. I'm unforgettable, we all are and whether up or down its no reason to convince anyone else if that. I'll trust the process with you, only this time around the 25 day challenge wontbe to get my ex back but get everything damn thing I want back.

With that being said Ester is right..it ain't nothing like going to sleep with clarity.


PS as im writing this too you he is currently texting me he apologizes for pointing all ten of his fingers St me for so long and there was no reason why I should spend another day not knowing I'm not crazy...he was for even creating doubt... LITERALLY HE JUST TEXTED THAT...

Vibe is moving into overdrive. Thank you my love!

THIS ! made me soooooooooooo happy ! SO HAPPY!

Regardless of who, what and how it all unfolds - you are always loved and therefore you will ALWAYS be okay