This is exactly what I'm practicing, and it works beautifully! What I have found though, is when my guy does reach out, it doesn't work pretending to be nonchalant.. Sooooo.. I act as though he's totally smitten, with that inner smile all day long, and he IS totally smitten.. Then as long as he's playing nice I give him my unconditional love and affection. I give it freely, not really caring if he responds or not. Interestingly, if I try to pull back and lose that "I love you and I have an endless supply of unconditional love for you" vibe, he also pulls back. There are lots of subtle differences in our energy at play here, and I'm determined to nail the perfect recipe! Keep your thoughts coming, I think we are really onto  something here as well xxxxx

This is amazing cherished and goes pretty well with your nickname actually you are cherished indeed. I think we all struggle more or less with what you mentioned actually. The feeling of self love and knowing not just convincing yourself of you worth - how did you get there ? I mean on a day to day basis what does it look like to get on the journey of self love and actually nail it ?! Did you just repeat your awesomeness to yourself while looking in the mirror or did you just decide to make that assumption for yourself ? And how did you filter out the stuff that may have made you feel otherwise ?

Like in my case I'm definitely in a better place by still struggle at times with the feeling of being enough and deserving -how do we stop the victim story AND change it to the original story ?

Cherished wrote:

And something else. I've been thinking back to every one of my relationships.. Something always happened and I would create a drama and push them away.. And then I'd try desperately to get them back and they would run. It was all to do with having NO self love, no belief in myself. I was always so needy of love, always felt like there was never enough. Until I discovered that I have all the love I could ever need and SO MUCH MORE right here inside of myself. That's the real game changer.

There have been a few pretty major relationships in my life, spanning from my first childhood romance.. And EVERY ONE OF THEM has come back to me, begging to try again. Not right away. Some took years. Because I hadn't yet mastered the art of self love and living unconditionally. I didn't realise I created my own victim stories until exactly a year ago  actually!!

I thought it was worth pondering the fact that ALL of my guys have reached out to me suddenly within the last few days!! AND all of them  without exception have expressed they would  absolutely drop to their knees and beg me to marry them today if they thought they had a sliver of a chance! They ALL told me how enormously proud they are that I have become an incredibly beautiful woman with the most enormous heart they'd ever known. They each actually said something very similar to each other! . And I say this not as a smart-ass, and I completely do not have tickets on myself. it is genuinely true.

What has changed? I know my worth. I know I have an enormous heart. I am true to my words, true to my spirit and I am more and more in alignment every day. I live in bliss and I give my love freely and openly. And people feel that. Each of my guys has told me that I am the love of his life, the one that he will always regret letting go. I used to smirk at that and think "ha, one day you'll regret this so bad you'll be MISERABLE without me!" But that's a terrible energy lol! Now I am truly grateful that they each see me as I am.

Why am I suddenly the woman of their dreams, and why are they each realising it now? Because NOW I am in alignment with who I really am. NOW I am happy. NOW I am love. And I know HOW to love. And I need nothing in return. It gives me the greatest joy to bestow love upon people, with freedom from needing reciprocity. They all came back. All of them. And they are "in love with me" because I'm probably one of very few people they have ever met who has mastered the fine art of alignment. Lets use our experiences together to get everyone else here up to speed. I want all of us in alignment, living the life of our dreams! Let's do this, beautiful people 😘💜🌈

Super inspiring Cherished and I absolutely understand and hear everything you're saying. But the mind chatter can be so overwhelming it really is a serious struggle sometimes and in those cases you just want to feel better and not have to fight yourself anymore.

I love Abraham hicks when I first read them - but then eventually I needed to go deeper - I think I have found that with neville which is funny because Abraham is just an extension of that .

Ignore reality, focus on what you do want and expect it even though you don't see it yet - good lord this battle is a tough one but I do believe it's worth it. I'm having a bit of a downer day today and though it was not brought on by my guy, the contrast with a few people made me start questioning myself - but I'm fighting it , I'm recognizing the gremlin as you once advised me - and I'm consciously choosing the opposite - makes me feel great for chunks of time but doesn't stick so I do it again.

I am eager to find myself where you are now. I shall take your lead ..

So are you saying that when you're contrasting you just let it be and wait for the opportunity to feel better ? I understand what you mean about not seeing it as a battle it just makes it more of a battle- instead notice how much easier it gets by the day ( because it is actually getting easier, I was in a very different place 6 months ago and I'm doing so much better !!! )

It's the belief that I am observing that is not serving me in the manifestation that I am working on replacing - but replacing over a decade of constant thinking is a bit of a pickle - but I'm still better ... Much better - with moment of focusing on the exterior where I have to redirect it within and readjust .

So you say feel it and talk yourself better ? Or feel it, acknowledge it and ignore it ? Or feel it and wait...

Cherished wrote:

Don't fight it. Don't fight anything. Just make it your goal to get back into alignment. Don't refer to the struggle. I KNOW what mind chatter is, trust me! But it really is just focus. And instead of fighting that negative chatter, I instead began to tell myself it was easy. Easier every day. You think it's a battle? Then you've landed yourself s battle! It gets easier every day to reach for better thoughts. It becomes second nature to fill your mind with positive chatter instead. It really is just a matter of consistent focus.

Of course you try to get into the vortex (Abe). But you have to stop TRYING and battling, and just sneak in when you catch yourself feeling good! And next time you roll on in! And then you walk in there like a boss! And then you jump in, dance in, catapult in! There will ALWAYS be contrast around you. But it's how you deal with it. Instead of reacting to the contrast, activate your senses and make it your sole/soul (see what I did there? Lol) mission to find your way back into the vortex. That's all it is. And the more time you spend learning how to do that, the easier it becomes.

Got it ! Straight to the point and easy enough
It's easy and when contrast ask myself what I do want ...

I'm managing better slowly but surely - the mind will trick you into stuff sometimes one really needs to pay attention

Thank you very much cherished you have helped me more than you know !