You can't make her fall in love with you. You can only raise your vibration to a point that it is impossible for you to not have the relationship of your dreams with her.

First of all, really understand LoA and practice it in every day life.
Get her out of your mind for a while (that's optional, but very beneficial), and work on being happy.
Start to feel as if you had the relationship now.
 

UniversalStudent wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

You can't make her fall in love with you. You can only raise your vibration to a point that it is impossible for you to not have the relationship of your dreams with her.

First of all, really understand LoA and practice it in every day life.
Get her out of your mind for a while (that's optional, but very beneficial), and work on being happy.
Start to feel as if you had the relationship now.
 

I don't mean to sound rude or like a smart ass but isnt that contradictory if the relationship of my dreams is where we are both happy and deeply in love with each other? I'm also having trouble forcing myself to look at negatives in a positive way. For example her talking and falling for other guys is in turn making her realize I am her soul mate. Are there easier ways to have this thought in my head without me dwelling on whether or not she falls in love with them and lives happily ever after?

It makes a big difference, if you try to make her do something or if your focus is on you - that's the difference between failure and success. People who understand that they don't manipulate the other person, but changing themselfs are the ones who are more likely to succeed. I know that it can sound like the same thing, but that's just the case from a lower vibration.

You don't have to look at negative things positively. Just ignore it and focus on what you want. Like wolf said: Every time you start telling us a story like "she said that and maybe that will happen.." you are on the wrong path.

Sanshi wrote:

UniversalStudent wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

You can't make her fall in love with you. You can only raise your vibration to a point that it is impossible for you to not have the relationship of your dreams with her.

First of all, really understand LoA and practice it in every day life.
Get her out of your mind for a while (that's optional, but very beneficial), and work on being happy.
Start to feel as if you had the relationship now.
 

I don't mean to sound rude or like a smart ass but isnt that contradictory if the relationship of my dreams is where we are both happy and deeply in love with each other? I'm also having trouble forcing myself to look at negatives in a positive way. For example her talking and falling for other guys is in turn making her realize I am her soul mate. Are there easier ways to have this thought in my head without me dwelling on whether or not she falls in love with them and lives happily ever after?

It makes a big difference, if you try to make her do something or if your focus is on you - that's the difference between failure and success. People who understand that they don't manipulate the other person, but changing themselfs are the ones who are more likely to succeed. I know that it can sound like the same thing, but that's just the case from a lower vibration.

You don't have to look at negative things positively. Just ignore it and focus on what you want. Like wolf said: Every time you start telling us a story like "she said that and maybe that will happen.." you are on the wrong path.

But I'm not trying to manipulate her. I am confused again. So me wishing and wanting genuine unconditional love from her and trying to use the LOA to make my dream and wishes come true is being manipulative?

Sanshi wrote:

UniversalStudent wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

It makes a big difference, if you try to make her do something or if your focus is on you - that's the difference between failure and success. People who understand that they don't manipulate the other person, but changing themselfs are the ones who are more likely to succeed. I know that it can sound like the same thing, but that's just the case from a lower vibration.

You don't have to look at negative things positively. Just ignore it and focus on what you want. Like wolf said: Every time you start telling us a story like "she said that and maybe that will happen.." you are on the wrong path.

But I'm not trying to manipulate her. I am confused again. So me wishing and wanting genuine unconditional love from her and trying to use the LOA to make my dream and wishes come true is being manipulative?

No, that's not what I mean. Maybe you are to fresh to all of this to understand it at the moment. Don't worry, just focus on the relationship you want with her.

It doesn't matter what she thinks or who else plays a role in this. By changing your vibration, you tune yourself to a different version of her. If you haven't heard about parallel universes yet, I would highly recommend to watch some Bashar videos about it on youtube. It helps to take all other people out of the equasion.

Okay I will and thank you so much for the advice. If I came across as rude or condescending I'm sorry I was truly confused as to what you were trying to convey. I am very new and know only the basics and I was trying to rush results by learning and using advanced techniques and stuff. I just honestly truly miss her and want nothing more than to be with her again and work towards our happiness together. I know it starts with myself and I have been working on myself bit by bit but the longer I am not with her the more bothered I become. I am trying to learn how to reverse my feeling is defeat and doubt as well.

I need help....I keep seeing things that cause doubt like other guys flirting and her wanting to hangout with those guys that flirt....I feel so defeated and whenever I try messaging her she almost never replies but replies to others quickly as if she is more interested...idk how to believe we are together when I see things like that...what do I do??