BooLala wrote:

Scarlet Angel wrote:

You should be fine with the fact that at least she loves you so much. My love has moved on in physical reality. I sometimes feel so bad about it.
It wont be difficult for you to attract her back.. Just give yourself sometime to heal and let her realise that you are perfect for her. Just imagine you both completely into eachother and scare free.. All the circumstances will start rolling for you both..

Were not in contact at all in the physical reality, I just feel and know deep down that we are each others true love and soul mates. I've just made things so bad that I'm blocked from everything, she's changed her number and is currently with someone else. I'm start EVERYTHING again

My love truly loves me but has cut me off and I've just seen his dating profile on a website... We don't have any contact either. So I know how it must hurt and I'm currently dealing with that pain too. Starting again is good, this is what I'm doing too as I have fallen off the LOA wagon in the last few days. I'm working on healing that pain and changing my thoughts about the situation so I can feel love and forgiveness only. 

PowerOfLove wrote:

BooLala wrote:

Scarlet Angel wrote:

You should be fine with the fact that at least she loves you so much. My love has moved on in physical reality. I sometimes feel so bad about it.
It wont be difficult for you to attract her back.. Just give yourself sometime to heal and let her realise that you are perfect for her. Just imagine you both completely into eachother and scare free.. All the circumstances will start rolling for you both..

Were not in contact at all in the physical reality, I just feel and know deep down that we are each others true love and soul mates. I've just made things so bad that I'm blocked from everything, she's changed her number and is currently with someone else. I'm start EVERYTHING again

My love truly loves me but has cut me off and I've just seen his dating profile on a website... We don't have any contact either. So I know how it must hurt and I'm currently dealing with that pain too. Starting again is good, this is what I'm doing too as I have fallen off the LOA wagon in the last few days. I'm working on healing that pain and changing my thoughts about the situation so I can feel love and forgiveness only. 

Its been 12months for me. When she cut me off she never blocked me or anything but then I got needy and first she blocked me on whatsapp then on msnger and then changed her number. I have to start EVERYTHING fresh, I need to start it all over again to truly forgive and let it all go

Oasiscalm wrote:

BooLala wrote:

First off, sincere apologies to everyone, I've been away for 2/3months.
Secondly I wont lie, part of my latest story was a lie. I did get my girl back. The story about her getting engaged and living with her and getting her back is TRUE and so was how I got her back first time, after 2/3months. The latter one about how I'm back with her was bullshit, in fact things have been worst than ever. Its been 12months nearly and things are so bad, I was on the verge of actually killing someone. Anyways, I want to apologise to everyone for lying about the latest story... I made things so bad, she's blocked me from Facebook(i don't go on it), changed her number and is dating someone else. Yes I know I can change the situation and done it twice before.
She IS my soul mate, my heart rips out my chest when I see her and I love her so much.
Basically I need help, everything thats happened between us is keeping me full of rage and I can't move on no matter how hard I try, my heart belongs with her... I've read articles and practiced everything possible on forgiveness and nothings worked. That is what is holding me back, forgiveness, please help!!

In some regards there is not really any advice anyone can give you because you know it all. Re-read your own posts see if they motivate you to start the change.

Where you stand right now, you know that you won't be attracting her back successfully. So start there. Accept the present for what it is. You are hurt, you feel stuck, you are confused. Acknowledge your current state with no judgement - just say "yes right now I feel like a hopeless case".

From there you need to move through the process. Start with what you can handle.

Ask - that's simple you want to be in a loving relationship with your girl. So sit sit somewhere and sincerely ask for it. Visualise a scene of you two together happy and contented. Immerse yourself in the scene and do it with a big smile on your face. When you are finished say " it's done". That's it you asked you've intended,it's done - now next step.

Believe - so realistically as you stand now, you are a million steps away from believing. So ask yourself how do I get to the place where I can believe. In order to believe that your can have your desire you have to believe in you and your power.  What will you need do to believe in yourself.

(1) Forgiveness - forgive yourself. Forgive her. Just forgive. Let it go. You have nothing to gain from carrying around the past. It has been done. It's gone. How is it serving you in the here and now. It's not. It causing you more stress. So why carry it any further.
How u choose to forgive is your choice. There are many ways to do it. Google is your best friend - there are meditations, mantras, EFT, visualisations etc.

(2) Self love - you know the principles, to get love you have to be love. Your world is you pushed out. Etc etc..... Start filling yourself up with love and confidence. You need to reset your self worth to super high. You wouldn't accept for yourself to be in a state of consistent despair if you truly knew and acknowledged how worthy you are.
Affirm your self worth, your deservedness, your amazingness.

(3) Gratitude - give gratitude daily and intensely. When you immerse yourself in gratitude the big things troubling you instantly become smaller and the small niggles become insignificant. The more you practice gratitude the more you can't help but let go.


Receive - you can only receive if you are open to love. And you can only be open to love if you have let go, accepted that your intention will be yours and maintain the state of your wish fulfilled.


BooLaLa you know the principles, you logically know what to do. But you now need to dig deep and make the decision that you are going to start the work. Everyday get up and know you are on the path to healing yourself and manifesting your heart desires. But as with anyone on this forum, asking for advice is the first step but the advice needs to be taken from the screen and put into active effort on your part. Will it be easy, for a short period no, but everyday will be easier and the days when you fall, you pick yourself up have a scream have a cry have a beer and get back on with it.

Good luck and I know in time to come you will be re-writing you success story word for word as you wrote a while back

Wow, best step by step guide for me to start, thank you so,so,so much

SydneysMommy wrote:

BooLala wrote:

SydneysMommy wrote:

Hey so I'm totally with you on being so crazy in love it makes you do crazy things! No judgement here. But the more crazy things you do, the more you just appear crazy

The damage is done, please accept it! Everyone seems fairly in agreement to stop, breathe and think a sec. If she is for you, would she want you being thus way?

When me and mine broke up, I list my job, apartment, money and ,5 year relationship in 4 months. I was the definition of nuts. I took Tgerapy and even went to group JUST to screw my head back on from the whirlwind I had experienced. And out if it came the most uncomfortable amounts of fear and guilt you'll ever Imagine. Those two emotions Can ruin Everything!


My advice, although you love her....love YOU enough to take a sec and obsess over you!

Being left twice has to be hard and knowing you are full of emotions meaning purging and healing shoukd be the first order of business before the repair of your relationship.

I am sorry this hurts, but without addressing the pain first, nothing will makes sense love.

Did you get back together?

No we are not back together..the added crazy on both ends makes us fearful and question motives I conversation. But...he DID cone back. He calls, texts, and often flirts. We was worried I'd repeat old habits and you know what I am too. So I'm reprogramming and I responded to him with respect and calm and beauty. I have no idea how he feels for me. But I know how I feel about myself and it's not helpless .


I notice he needs the space to work out his kinks though. There is a wall of blame around his heart.and there is a list! Guess who is off of it? Yup, me!!!

It can only be because he still loves me or the original ground work and foundation is peeking through the rubble created in the end.

Cut off everything in your mind...try and think of what would make YOU forgive YOU.

I know it sounds arrogant and I  apolgise but what would I forgive myself for and how would I forgive myself? I've started again and want to take the blame and I guess I do but my anger and hurt is directed at her for cutting me off, hence why I'm the one suffering

BooLala wrote:

SydneysMommy wrote:

BooLala wrote:

Did you get back together?

No we are not back together..the added crazy on both ends makes us fearful and question motives I conversation. But...he DID cone back. He calls, texts, and often flirts. We was worried I'd repeat old habits and you know what I am too. So I'm reprogramming and I responded to him with respect and calm and beauty. I have no idea how he feels for me. But I know how I feel about myself and it's not helpless .


I notice he needs the space to work out his kinks though. There is a wall of blame around his heart.and there is a list! Guess who is off of it? Yup, me!!!

It can only be because he still loves me or the original ground work and foundation is peeking through the rubble created in the end.

Cut off everything in your mind...try and think of what would make YOU forgive YOU.

I know it sounds arrogant and I  apolgise but what would I forgive myself for and how would I forgive myself? I've started again and want to take the blame and I guess I do but my anger and hurt is directed at her for cutting me off, hence why I'm the one suffering

I'm not a loa guru or anything but I'll put my two pennies in to help maybe you can get some idea here. you need to ask yourself for forgiveness for putting her and yourself in this position. Your inner self is suffering because you guys are seperate right? Or at least that is what your ego is telling you. Your inner self is suffering is because you're lacking in some self love for yourself.
You got to take care of what's under the hood that is you to be able drive smoothly into the arms of love. It's like you're driving with a flat going "but I don't see why I need to change the tire? It's round so it should move my car." Nope inner work needs to be done to get you Vibing smoothly first.

Going about it. There are some methods like hopononono or whatever that asks for forgiveness. But I found that sitting and like looking in the mirror and our photos and just saying "I'm sorry for tha past situation. I forgive you (to me) and I forgive you (him) and together we forgive and love and move to a better place" just talk to yourself and like get to know you. It seems like what why? But if you slow down and just talk sometimes you hit a goldmine. Let go of the pain and anger it's just poisioing yourself (and got you blocked for now) let it go like Buddha says it doesn't do anything but hinder you.

There's no point in it. And I don't mean just say "**** it I let go" you got to understand it, acknowledge that was part of the past and that's where the forgiveness part comes in and understand you will let it go leaving your body. It will feel like the sun came out again to say hi.