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Hello everyone THIS IS A LITTLE LONG.
I'm new to LOA. A little about my situation. My ex boyfriend and I were together for 11 years. We were engaged in 2013, however we ended it because he wasn't ready to get married. After our engagement ended we still stayed together. A year later he decided that he just want to be friends. I did everything they tell you not to do I begged, cried, pleased with him nothing worked. So we stop communicating and he got another girlfriend. I am real close to his family. I was invited to spend last year 4th of July with them. That's how we stated back talking after months of no contact. We decided to be friends for months everything was going good, so I asked him to be with me. He said that he's wasn't ready for a relationship again. So I decided to let the situation go and be his friend. We still acted like we were together visited each other talking everyday etc. I live in Florida he lives in Charlotte. Recently I found out the he has a new girlfriend wow I know. Once I found out I told him that I can't continue going back and forward with him knowing I want more and he's not ready for what I want ie marriage and kids. He said that he is sorry for continue to put me through the BS and that he realized he is not good for me. So we decided to stop talking. So now it's been two months since we last talked. I want to manifest him back to me and have a better relationship than the last. I have been focusing on me and I continue to tell the universe everyday that I love him. I asked for signs and everyday I get signs such as his initial or our anniversary date or his smell, etc everytime I see them I just say thank you. Is there anything else that I should be doing. I worry that this time around that he will be gone for good. Please help thank you in advance
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I have to admit that I stopped reading your post the moment I realised that you feel the need to tell us your old story. If you want him back, never ever tell this story again. Not us, not your friends, not yourself. It's completely irrelevant and holds you back.
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wolf wrote:
I was just looking for this post
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Sanshi wrote:
I have to admit that I stopped reading your post the moment I realised that you feel the need to tell us your old story. If you want him back, never ever tell this story again. Not us, not your friends, not yourself. It's completely irrelevant and holds you back.
To be fair, the OP says she is new to LOA so wouldn't have realised that.
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PrettyFlamingo wrote:
Sanshi wrote:
I have to admit that I stopped reading your post the moment I realised that you feel the need to tell us your old story. If you want him back, never ever tell this story again. Not us, not your friends, not yourself. It's completely irrelevant and holds you back.
To be fair, the OP says she is new to LOA so wouldn't have realised that.
I know, but I think it's helpful to stop telling your story as quick as possible. The more you repeat it the harder it gets to forget it and the easier to access those thoughts you don't want. I wish someone had told me to stop repeating my story in the very beginning of my journey. It would have been much easier for me.
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Well, now that the story is behind you, I would like to know about YOU. What do you enjoy doing? What are your dreams outside of him? Anything you want to try? What really pushes you to be you?
Last edited by holistichealing (7/08/2016 10:47 am)
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Thank you to everyone for your advise. I really appreciate it. I am currently in graduate school studying for my master's in biomedical sciences. My dream is to become an obstetrician gynecologist. I spend most of my days studying. However, some days I get into my feelings but I try to focus on the end goal at hand. In the past I have let my situation with my ex control my ability to stay focus on my dreams. This time is going to be different. It's all about me.
Last edited by Howardgirl12 (7/08/2016 2:53 pm)
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Howardgirl12 wrote:
Thank you to everyone for your advise. I really appreciate it. I am currently in graduate school studying for my master's on biomedical sciences. My dream is to become an obstetrician gynecologist. I spend most of my days studying. However, some days I get into my feelings but I try to focus on the end goal at hand. In the past I have let my situation with my ex control my control and my ability to stay focus on my dreams. This time is going to be different. It's all about me.
Now this I love to read. Just do what makes you happy and I am positive that you will become a great obstetrician gynecologist. That is a very interesting field to be studying.
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Thank you
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Howardgirl12 wrote:
Thank you
You're most welcome.π