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Focus
What are some examples on how to focus on the relationship with the person, not the person? Right now I'm focusing on him and I together, but that's with him. I know through LOA you need to focus on what you want, which is actually the relationship with him.
Thanks!
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Re: Focus
Not focusing on him means not thinking that you want him, not thinking about what he is doing right now, not worrying about him and so on.
Remember the warm feeling of getting a text from him to say good night, remember how it was to have fun with him, remember how it felt when he was nice to you... You have to reinvoke the (good) feelings you had in the relationship. Focusing on you and him together is perfectly fine.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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ok, great! I've been doing that all along. Thank you Sanshi!
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Re: Focus
Sanshi wrote:
Not focusing on him means not thinking that you want him, not thinking about what he is doing right now, not worrying about him and so on.
Remember the warm feeling of getting a text from him to say good night, remember how it was to have fun with him, remember how it felt when he was nice to you... You have to reinvoke the (good) feelings you had in the relationship. Focusing on you and him together is perfectly fine.
Sanshi, you are the best!
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Not focusing on him means not thinking that you want him, not thinking about what he is doing right now, not worrying about him and so on.
Remember the warm feeling of getting a text from him to say good night, remember how it was to have fun with him, remember how it felt when he was nice to you... You have to reinvoke the (good) feelings you had in the relationship. Focusing on you and him together is perfectly fine.
Sanshi, you are the best!
Nope, that's Cherished. 
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Haha, that's funny.. I read that and thought "wow, Sanshi and I are on the same wavelength right now" 😂
If you imagine it in your mind..
Believe it in your heart..
Feel it in your soul..
You will hold it in your hand 💞
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Haha, that's funny.. I read that and thought "wow, Sanshi and I are on the same wavelength right now" 😂
Sounds like a compliment to me. 
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Just don't focus on him being separate from you. I know some people (and I do it once in a while too) will envision their desired person there with them and even imagine having a conversation with them. Like imagine they're there beside you in bed or beside you on the couch watching tv. Try to stir up the warm and fuzzy feelings you'd be experiencing if you two were spending time together. Think of the end result which would be you two already in the relationship and not that details of how you want things to work out.
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Like imagine they're there beside you in bed or beside you on the couch watching tv. Try to stir up the warm and fuzzy feelings you'd be experiencing if you two were spending time together.
So, call me weird, but I do this as if he were an imaginary friend? You know how little kids do that, they have conversations and what not? Yeah, I do that. Generally it happens in the shower (idk why everything happens in the shower for me?) and sometimes in the car if I'm traveling a distance.
I get really excited and giddy when I do this, and its generally 'random' events that we would be doing together. I prefer to visualize like this with my eyes open and acting it out - it makes it more real for me.
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Just a thought, but maybe you have the best ideas in the shower, because the vibration of water is very high.
Did you ever think about why children have such a great imagination? I think LoA is programmed in us. We know it intuitively when we come here, but we forget, because we imitate the people around us and what they are living is far from using LoA to their advantage.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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