I don't feel that I can give a very helpful answer to that, so just some random thoughts.
I think it's a matter of vibration. When your vibration is high, you can't hold onto the past. It gets harder to remember it.

When you look at it from a psychological standpoint it would be the best to not recall it again and again, because the more you repeat something in your mind the harder it gets to forget it.

And you have to remember that you are the creator of your reality. He is a reflection of you, he follows your instructions. He can't hurt you. Only you can hurt you. He couldn't act differently, because he had to match your vibration.

I remember that BooLala was talking about that he had to forgive is girl first in order to get her back. Maybe you can send him a private message and ask for help.
I think you know yourself that you need to let go of the past in order to get him back. But I think how to do that you have to figure out on yourself. Maybe try to step back from the situation and ask yourself what has really changed. Is he another person now? Did he any damage that is unfixable? Or is the problem just in your mind?

I guess I am I kind of feeling better after some minutes..  Hey because I just had all these thoughts sometime ago will I have to start the process all over again????????????!??
Or just quit thinking about my love???????

Just focus on the relationship as much as possible. When you feel your thoughts shift in a unwanted direction, stop thinking about him. After feeling better, concentrate on the relationship again and so on.


Just a random fact: I got a text today at 11:11, then I posted at 1:11 and now I posted on 11:11. Man, that drives me crazy.

Scarlet Angel wrote:

Thank you so much sanshi.
It's really difficult to avoid reality. Sometimes I feel negatives thoughts much faster than the positive ones.

Because you are trained to react negatively to situations. It's hard to de-learn something, at least harder than to start from scratch, but you can definitely do it! Just don't give up. That's the most important thing. I have to remind myself every day of so many things that I practiced differently all my life. But I think it's worth it.

It's only difficult to avoid reality, if you have no alternative thoughts. Did you ever program a website? If you put an image on your website, you can add an alternative text, just in case the image can't be displayed properly. If you add the text and the users can't see the image, they see the text and they don't feel that something is missing. If you don't add the text, there is just something missing and the users start to think about the missing image. Don't be the programmer who is to lazy to add the text. Think of your favorite memory with your guy or make up a new scene in your mind and everytime you find yourself facing reality, go back to that memory. It gets easier with time.

You can't ran a marathon without training and you can't change your thoughts without training. Be patient with yourself. It's not an easy thing to do. It's a skill like playing the piano or dancing. You have to practice it, but you can get where you want to be, if you are persistent.