Thanks Sanshi, although that thread is quite different than what i am asking... That thrads is saying when others tell you to date! My question is should we date.

I agree its not different.  Either you want your ex back or you want them to be jealous and you want revenge.  That is not a healthy relationship you would want with your soulmate.  If they are seeing someone.  Let them.  Take care of you.  Be the better person and wait.  I would much rather be the one that said.  I loved him so much that I waited and there was no one else I wanted to use just so that I could feel better for a few min.  Its just not worth it.  And seriously.  The negative energy you are giving off is really killing the love you should have for your soulmate.  Jealousy and revenge are negative.  In turn I think it would also cause them to do the same to you.  Really when I thought of this and even thought of seeing someone else.  That is when jealousy started to affect me.  I do nothing to find out about him or what he is doing.  Fact is.  I am amazing.  He will never find anyone else like me that will love him the way that I do.  So he can try.  But the Universe is on the side of good.  When you live good, you get good.  Love is good.  Not jealous or in seeking to hurt the one you love.  If this is your thoughts maybe you need to think about do you really want them back or do you just want to hurt them.  What is your real motivation.  I pray you find what you really want.  I pray in no way I offended you.  It is not that I did not think the same as you in the beginning but then I realized that I am taking the high road.  Showing my true loyalty.  And not just to him but the universe as well.  I believe I will be rewarded for being honorable.  That how much I do love him. 

RaCo, It is totally up to you.  It would never be anyones place to judge.  I just know for me that I would feel I would be using someone else just to get some tlc.  Sure I feel alone and unloved and that does anyone else want me.  But like you.  I love him and I don't want anyone else but him.  I decided that it was wrong to use someone else.  That someone else could be someone elses loa.  I would think it would also set back my manifesting even more.  Especially if that was the feelings I was giving off.  Maybe that is what is throwing yours off also.  I would not want to give my love any reason at all to not feel how I feel about him and NO one else.  I don't see it as pinning as much as saving my love only for him.  He would have to live with whatever he would do to someone else and to me.  I don't want that feeling or regret. Reality would be for me in doing this that my love and loyalty of positive energy would be so much stronger than just not contacting him.  I believe the Universe loves loyalty and a straight desire for only one.  Then my energy going off into other directions.  I am here if you need to vent.  But just love who you are.  Go to the gym, workout with your friends.  Make yourself so hot and attractive that she totally loses her mind the next time she sees you and you know the women will come around and be falling at your feet.  But you would be like a gentlemen and tell them your heart is already taken.  But thank you for the compliments.  I think veronica or someone else said.  Which would you want more?  Grass or Gold.  Be gold.  Be untouched and perfected in all kinds of ways.  Be in love with your life and with yourself.  When you feel that complete you will not want to waste your time on anyone else but the very best and the one.  Trust me.  I know you would probably feel worse and your heart will be torn.  Don't do it.  But that is me.  Keep in touch.  Be positive and know it will happen.  But you have to give off the positive energy and really be following all the rules.  No spying or stalking your ex.  Don't know anything about them at all.  

I think dating is good for us. A big part of the LoA is not hanging on or waiting around. So if you want to get yourself out there and have fun or sex with someone else then by all means do it! Look after yourself first and have fun! As long as it makes you feel good. The universe will not forget that you want your ex back.

How do you know one of the people you date isn't gonna turn out better and more suited for you than your ex, anyway? A tonne if LoA practitioners state that you should always ask for your ex OR someone better. You never know what you might miss.

It's not about revenge, it's about putting yourself first and taking your ex off a pedestal. If they are dating then why shouldn't you? What you do in your time apart is none of their business, anyway. It doesn't mean you don't love them.

Last edited by Em (7/01/2016 1:07 pm)