Berryluv wrote:

Sanshi you're doing great keep it up, so others really GET the full gist of what you are saying...I don't think many people here get the simplicity and the depth of this whole LoA thing. Its always about you, not about the ex, not about the lost thing, not about the crappy job, or suckie life...always about you and your well being. And when your well being in catered to....the magic happens....

If you want examples of this working.. search the forums... heck... google...the proof is there.. there is no doubt to this, and the only reason its not working for you is because you're in your own way. It takes as much time as it takes to imprint your beliefs.

And the buffer of 'time' things take to manifest is such a BLESSING... gives you time to work on you, time to know exactly what you want, time for you to appreciate it more, time for you to appreciate the contrast.

Oh the beautiful thing called contrast... its soo amazing, and the more you are aware of LoA, the easier it is to look at your contrast and put yourself back into alignment.

People look on some individuals here in the forum and think... ohh they are magical, they have it all together...yes they do, they have it all together because they don't allow themselves to bounce around from here to there. And so can you.... So can you...

Appreciate this TIME it takes to materialize...and use it to get clear and don't hold back.

Again...Thank you Sanshi...

Cherished once said that she would write the same things over and over again until the last of us gets it. She can't do all this work on her own, so I'm in now as well.
You are so right. It's simple and people make it harder than it has to be. Just focus on what you want and it comes. But most of us are so used to focus on what they observe or repeating what they don't want over and over again that they don't even realise that they focus on what they don't want. It took me months and months to finally understand this and I wouldn't say that I'm dense. It's so different from anything I've learned.
I'm still working on appreciating contrast. The mosquito bite on my foot is itching like hell. I love to feel my body not too much...lol.

I just LOVE reading your vortexy posts Sanshi :-) so so so happy for you! 

Sanshi,
A little harsh response as I am new this whole forum thing.  BUT very insightful of you.  You showed me that I was living out a story from the past.  I really thought I was just introducing myself and sharing but you saw something that def has been a pattern in my healing.  I like what you said and it was what I needed to hear.  Maybe a little less cruel but I heard what I needed to hear.  Thank you

Sanshi wrote:

beau65 wrote:

Sanshi,
A little harsh response as I am new this whole forum thing.  BUT very insightful of you.  You showed me that I was living out a story from the past.  I really thought I was just introducing myself and sharing but you saw something that def has been a pattern in my healing.  I like what you said and it was what I needed to hear.  Maybe a little less cruel but I heard what I needed to hear.  Thank you

Sorry, it wasn't my purpose to be cruel. I wrote it at 3:30 AM because a mosquito buzzed around my head all night and bit me three times, so I maybe was a little out of alignment and it doesn't came across exactly how I meant it.

It's still true that nearly nobody is interested in your story and the reason is that nearly every story is the same. It differs in how long the relationship lasted and how long it has been since the breakup but the rest is the same for nearly everyone (doubts, worries, insecurities and so on). And believe me, we were all there in the beginning, so don't worry when someone feels the need to pick on you because you tell your old story. Just ignore me. ;D It just drives me crazy that people still concentrate on what they don't want and even want to share it with the world but it took me a long time to get it myself, so sorry again if my post came across rude.

Thanks to you, I realized what I was doing.
I´m not going to repeat or tell my story to anyone. If someone asks me about my BF I´m gonna tell them: he´s out of town, he´s on vacation. 

Jim Chien Beige wrote:

Thanks to you, I realized what I was doing.
I´m not going to repeat or tell my story to anyone. If someone asks me about my BF I´m gonna tell them: he´s out of town, he´s on vacation. 

You don't even have to make up any stories. That could backfire if the person knows your love. Yesterday someone ask me about my guy and I just said that I don't want to talk about it atm. He is there, I can feel him but if I would say that it would lead to unnecessary confusion I guess. ;D
And the most important thing, don't even tell yourself that story ever again! Forget it. Your memory works in the following way: the more you repeat something the easier it gets to access it and the more likely it gets that you won't forget it. You want to forget the past, so don't repeat it and don't recreate it. Extract what you liked about it and discard the rest.