I personally don't like the expression "ignoring reality" because it's nearly impossible to do that. The moment you say "okay, I will ignore THAT" you are focused on THAT. What most people mean by this I think is shifting your focus to something that pleases you. You can make a list of things you like and that make you happy and everytime the unwanted thought pops up think of something from this list. Another option is to let go of the past completely. That makes everything easier in terms of manifesting the relationship you want anyway.

Hm..in my experience when I had the urge to ask other people if I do everything right I didn't. What does it imply that you ask this question? You are not really trusting. Believe in yourself. Remember that it is not about visualisation, RS or scripting. It's about feeling yourself into the wanted reality and focus only on that without doubting the realness of it. To be able to do that you have to raise your vibration. The moment you are in the right place to manifest, you don't longer care if it will come soon or not because you are completely satisfied with the feeling of having it in the moment.