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I'm in a super negative space, so I'm going into NC again. Hopefully this time I'll last 25-30 days.
When I get payed next I'll be buying Veronica's book.
If someone could PM me the gist of what this challenge entails so I can start now (vs next week when I get payed) that'd be great. But either way I want to begin today.
Wish me luck! Thanks!!
Day 1: Working today. Low point. Trying to stay hopeful. Hopefully work will get my mind off of things.
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Hey, that's great you have made that decision...
I have been following Veronica's book for 14 days.. I feel like a child at Xmas... I keep glancing what is next on the list it is sooo encouraging! and so are the people in this forum
I am not going to lie yesterday I started to feel low, but thanks to someones comment on here I started to listen to meditation music today it has helped me
I was supposed to go to a concert with my love, he had bought the ticket as my birthday present, however its no longer happening, he is not giving me my ticket back so I decided to think "f*ck it! I have other things to do" make the most of today, and to be honest a girl I don't like because she is always insulting me and putting me down was organising it. So there is always a ray of light in the storm And guess what? One of my friends has contacted me to hang out so I am super grateful he is there for me
So what I could advise you is what most people recommend on here which is stick to your no-contact and work on yourself, send time with your friends and do things you always wanted to do. Also I would encourage you not to follow him on any social network account. I have removed the notifications on my facebook so I don't see what he is up to (bearing in mind since he decided to break up with me, he has been very active and posting/pretending he is super happy) hahha
Keep being positive and do things that benefit you
Good Luck!
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Bubbles, thank you SO so much. I've been low today, but each time, I catch myself, and do Lanie's method. It feels SO ******* GREAT and SO real. I'm scared but I need to keep up the faith. Thank you!!
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Hey No problem!
This is a community and I think we should support each other
Can you please tell me what this Lannies method everyone talks about it?
Thanks! and keep up the good work. We will get there
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Bubbles86 wrote:
Hey No problem!
This is a community and I think we should support each other
Can you please tell me what this Lannies method everyone talks about it?
Thanks! and keep up the good work. We will get there
I do too - I'm honestly tired of doubting. I just wish we could ask and skip the belief part, but I'm sure I'll get there someday lol. I just want her back.
And sure!
You envision your love a little bit away from you
You call out their name
They come up to you and tell you everything you've ever wanted to hear
That's literally it! But you want to FEEL the emotion. I usually incoorporate her hugging me, saying, "I love you. I want to be with you again... I miss us." The emotion is OVERWHELMING <3
But I'd definitely recommend buying her book, Pussy Whip, to understand the technique in full! I pretty much just summed it up
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Night of the first day:
576 hours remain.
Well, I finally told my parents how I believe (or at least I think I do...? Still looking for evidence, really...) in the LoA. They both think it's just "anecdotal" and that they're just coincidences, and I'm sure they're concerned for my well-being right now lol.
Kind of nerve-wracking actually.
I might need some help staying on-board and on the positive "hype train", as some call it.
I really want her back, and every time I try to think "YES. She's on her way!" a negative thought butts in and shuts it down.
But that's what this challenge is here for, yeah?
I know (at least somewhere...) that I believe in this stuff and that I can do it!
Doing another round of Lanie's PW.
EDIT: What do I do for this 25 day challenge? I'm sure positive thinking... but what does this challenge entail? I'll be buying the book on the 16th, hopefully, but yeah. Is it NC, or...?
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Well, day one and I caved. I asked, "So hey, would you be up for hanging out on Wednesday? Anyway, keep me updated. Hope you're having a great day!"
She just replied... "Wednesday....hmm don't believe I'll be able to sorry"
Gah. I mean, she says she has no feelings for me... I don't know how to keep my vibe up... I don't know how to feel better... please help me? It's just... my situation seems impossible and I odn't know what to do...
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Hey RR33, have you looked through all the relationship success stories on the secret stories website? Those stories are amazing, they really raise my vibe and build my faith when I feel doubtful or low. I def recommend!
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PowerOfLove wrote:
Hey RR33, have you looked through all the relationship success stories on the secret stories website? Those stories are amazing, they really raise my vibe and build my faith when I feel doubtful or low. I def recommend!
I have. They temporarily build my faith. Thank you so much for the recommendation though. I just can't let go of the doubt that she may be seeing another guy and it's scaring me SO much... she's always busy... :/
Trying SO hard to stay positive...
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RollingRock33 wrote:
Well, day one and I caved. I asked, "So hey, would you be up for hanging out on Wednesday? Anyway, keep me updated. Hope you're having a great day!"
She just replied... "Wednesday....hmm don't believe I'll be able to sorry"
Gah. I mean, she says she has no feelings for me... I don't know how to keep my vibe up... I don't know how to feel better... please help me? It's just... my situation seems impossible and I odn't know what to do...
I know NC is hard but try think of it this way, you've set your intention and now the universe is trying to sort out a way for you to be with her. It has a plan (it's done as soon as you set your intention) but every time you reach out to her, you're kinda screwing the plan up.. So the universe is like "damn now I Gotta think of another way. Damn and again. Damn this is gonna make it tougher but ok let's try this way etc" so you're actually delaying the process for yourself and also making it harder for the universe to sort out a route to get her to you. So next time you feel to reach out and you know it's not "inspired" (ie. You're acting on emotions and you're attached to the outcome, it doesn't feel like it's something you absolutely need to do in that moment and feels so right to do) then just remind yourself you're screwing up the universe's plans and delaying your end result.
Now the reason you keep getting responses that reflect hopelessness is because you feel it's a hopeless situation. When you cave in and ask her out because you miss her, you can never lie to the universe, it knows how you feel, so guess what? Her response is one that will keep you missing her (she can't meet you on Wednesday). You act on lack and lack is what you will receive.
You need to forget what it looks like now, it doesn't matter what she says or feels right now, it's a reflection of your past thoughts. You need to think about how you want her to be, how your relationship will be and live in that desired reality!! Feel those feelings! That's why NC is recommended because it's hard to live in the desired reality when you're having to see how she is in the current reality - if you're not strong enough to ignore the current reality (it is difficult!) then you need to do NC otherwise you're just wasting time and nothing will ever change. You need to believe it before you will see it - you can't do that if you're still caught up on your physical reality. It's not easy but you can do it.